Looking for tips on coping with other family member's pregnancy

[HotI]

and how I can answer ppl when they are ask why I don't have babies yet

I don't know why people think they its ok to ask something like that, so my method was to just give a flippant answer, "we are still practising" or "one day".

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

[RhiChiChi]

I've just started telling people we are having difficulties - if they are too rude to ask & expect some other answer, then they are in for a shock!

Welcome to BB by the way, tons of support here!

[MrsA]

Hi Ladies,
Thank you for your replies, all put a smile on my face! I am heading off to my SIL baby shower in 2 weeks and I really just don't want to be there! Her family are such sticky noses and I know they will ask!

RhiChiChi, thank you for the welcome
The Fyling Butter, I hope you don't mind but that is certainly one I am going to use I love it!
HOTI - You are so right! I don't know who people think they are and why they think they have the right!

I just hope I can get through that dreaded baby shower! The thought of it makes me ill!

Thanks Again!

[MrsA]

Hi Miss B.
Your post wasn't there before those lines are awesome, I wil be sure to use them all
Thanks Ladies. I will let you know if I get to use any of them!

[HotI]

You have to look after your mental health too, and if you are going through a rough bit, sometimes it can be good to make the decision to not go to the Baby Shower or other event. Among family and friends, this has happened a few times. One of my mates told the other mate that it was a bit tough at the moment and so she wouldn't make it, but hoped they all had a good time. Other times, its easier to not give a reason or say you have another event to go to. It depends on your relationship with the person and how they will react (you don't want more drama if they are a drama queen). It's an option if you want it.

take care

[MrsA]

Hi HotI I totally agree hopefully I will have an excuse to leave early but OH THE DRAMA it would cause. She evn complains that she has put on weight since being pregnant! She drives me insane but coz she is my sister in law I kinda have to go other wise i'll be the bad one coz she is the golden child as she is pregnant! but ill keep u posted. I just feel awful but I dont want to be there.
I am so glad I found this site because I dont have a single person that understand ths feeling.
Thanks for being here and take care x

[Miss.B]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

That's a classic! lol

OK, I have personally used these following lines (a couple of them didn't go down well, but hey, these people were rude with their prodding into my personal life!)

Well, we have, like, sex 5 times a day, so I don't really know why it's not happening, and like, we try different positions (go into great detail here hehehehehe) so really I just DON'T KNOW

It's a work in progress

We'll have them when we want them

Stop being rude and mind your own business

If the person asking is a tad overweight, give your answer and then ask 'and when will you lose a couple of kilos' and the reverse if they are on the skinny side.

[Liviam]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

That is absolutely fabulous!!!! I nearly wet myself laughing.

[MrsA]

Hi Ladies,
the Shower was OK, it started late, and I was occuping my niece and step daughter and then left at 3 so it was ok. I was just so glad I wasn't there when they opened the presents. Liviam that is so funny the saying coz I wasn't there very long no one asked lol.

Lans I think I will try the tears next time hehehe EVIL

Thank you for all your support love to keep in touch with you all

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Glad it went OK for you MrsA - these things are rarely fun, but "OK" is fantastic news!

[MrsA]

Thanks The Flying Butter! Yeah it was OK just... just got out in time as it was apperently time for my turn at some stoopid game lol!