I get scared/worried just thinking about the possibility that my little sister will get preg. SIL is preg - cope okay, but that's because I don't see her much.
What I find really hard is listening to, and reading all the negativity/complaining other people do about their children.
My BFF had her first (after 2 years TTC) in august, and has had a rough time with a colicy baby - but I'm sick of hearing her complain about how she just can't handle him screaming all the time.... to be perfectly honest I'd be happy just to have the baby. I'm making a pact to myself that I will try not to complain about my little one when he/she finally arrives!
I so resent her complaining, although I'm very happy for her and want to help/be around, I just can't bring myself to be there as much as she wants me to be.
I'm not sure she understands, although she has had her own trouble - she didn't have to start IVF, her little one was natural.
i feel crap if I am around too much, and I feel crap if I am not there.... all I want to do is just be selfish for a while and think about me. But I feel crap for being selfish... bah... hate myself sometimes. (not really - just a moment of negative headspace :P)
Hi Myturn,
I completely feel for you with what you are going through. But you know, at the end of the day you need to be selfish or you will go crazy. I had a lady at the bank the other day tell me how much she feels for me as we have been trying for so long and there she is with 2 kids she doesnt like~~~!!!!!!! WHAT THE??? Sometimes ppl just have no idea how lucky they are and its not until they are put in the same position you are in that they ever will.
Take some "you" time and dont beat yourself up for not wanting to be with with them all the time, you have your own life to lead, and your own problems to work through. you will only end up resenting them more if you just try to grin through it all.
Hope your october cycle brings you a beautiful, much longed for! baby. fingers crossed for you.
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