Looking for tips on coping with other family member's pregnancy

[Lans]

Hi mrs a! Good luck for tomorrow. I used to get my mil & fil asking when we'd have kids & I kept saying when god blesses us..

Now I don't believe in god, they do.. So I'm presuming they starting praying like mad! Lol!

We lost a bub last year, so they've kept quiet but just starting asking DH if we are "practicing" and make sure we aren't using precautions.(roll eyes) They not game to say it to me cos I'll cry hehe

Tears seem to work a treat cos people get a bit scared they've broken you!!

Seriously tho, keep your chin up & use some of the examples the other ladies suggested.. People can be just so damn nosy. Good luck

[Liviam]

"I don't know - we're kissing a lot and I was always told kissing led to babies. What are we doing wrong?"

Go on - just for the look on the face and see everyone stop asking within days.

That is absolutely fabulous!!!! I nearly wet myself laughing.

[MrsA]

Hi Ladies,
the Shower was OK, it started late, and I was occuping my niece and step daughter and then left at 3 so it was ok. I was just so glad I wasn't there when they opened the presents. Liviam that is so funny the saying coz I wasn't there very long no one asked lol.

Lans I think I will try the tears next time hehehe EVIL

Thank you for all your support love to keep in touch with you all

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Glad it went OK for you MrsA - these things are rarely fun, but "OK" is fantastic news!

[MrsA]

Thanks The Flying Butter! Yeah it was OK just... just got out in time as it was apperently time for my turn at some stoopid game lol!

[babygirl]

Hey MrsA,
I am in the same position you are, my SIL is pregnant with her first. my DH and I have been trying for 5 years, we have 2 serious fertility probs. me endo him motility. My SIL and her DH dont spend much time together as he works away, so in the same month we went for our first cycle of ICSI they decided to try IVF. they got pregnant. We could not go through with insemination as I was too sick.
they are now 10weeks pregnant, and I am still recovering.
Even though your sisters baby shower has come and gone, I just wanted you to know that I feel for you. there is nothing harder than having to smile along with everything that is happening. if ppl ask you why you havent got kids yet tell em the truth, that will stop the questions just as fast as anything else.
good luck in the future, plse let me know how your doing.

[myturn]

I get scared/worried just thinking about the possibility that my little sister will get preg. SIL is preg - cope okay, but that's because I don't see her much.
What I find really hard is listening to, and reading all the negativity/complaining other people do about their children.
My BFF had her first (after 2 years TTC) in august, and has had a rough time with a colicy baby - but I'm sick of hearing her complain about how she just can't handle him screaming all the time.... to be perfectly honest I'd be happy just to have the baby. I'm making a pact to myself that I will try not to complain about my little one when he/she finally arrives!
I so resent her complaining, although I'm very happy for her and want to help/be around, I just can't bring myself to be there as much as she wants me to be.
I'm not sure she understands, although she has had her own trouble - she didn't have to start IVF, her little one was natural.
i feel crap if I am around too much, and I feel crap if I am not there.... all I want to do is just be selfish for a while and think about me. But I feel crap for being selfish... bah... hate myself sometimes. (not really - just a moment of negative headspace :P)

[babygirl]

Hi Myturn,
I completely feel for you with what you are going through. But you know, at the end of the day you need to be selfish or you will go crazy. I had a lady at the bank the other day tell me how much she feels for me as we have been trying for so long and there she is with 2 kids she doesnt like~~~!!!!!!! WHAT THE??? Sometimes ppl just have no idea how lucky they are and its not until they are put in the same position you are in that they ever will.
Take some "you" time and dont beat yourself up for not wanting to be with with them all the time, you have your own life to lead, and your own problems to work through. you will only end up resenting them more if you just try to grin through it all.
Hope your october cycle brings you a beautiful, much longed for! baby. fingers crossed for you.

xxxx

[MrsA]

Hi ladies anyone still here ? Well that same SIL is pregnant again!! When I was just deciding to do my first ivf. I already dis like her but now it's worst! I hate this coz once again it's going to be another Christmas of how fantastic she is coz her bits work.

[Miss.B]

Oh babe, big hugs . It must be hard to swallow, it's just not bloody fair!!!! BTW, I just re read my initial post, yikes!! I wasn't very subtle was I I don't get on with my SIL the best, and she had her little one exactly 12 months after I had my first. Anyhoo, we had to do IVF to get my DS and now we're struggling to get DS a sibling. After her son was born she swore she wasn't going to have another one, one was more than enough. We fell out for 6 months earlier this year, and when mum told her we were trying again with IVF, she decided she wanted another baby NOW. She got pg but had a m/c (so did we around the same time) and now they are trying again. I don't know how I will cope when she gets pg, we are having lots of troubles TTC. It just sucks

[myturn]

Big hug lovely