LT TTC after Miscarriage or Loss #4

[possum magic]

T-hopes good luck for tomorrow! What did you decide? Is it an egg pick up tomorrow and then IVF or is it IUI? (Sorry i'm a bit confused on the technicalities but also with the BB threads going nuts-o there's all these posts missing as well as multiple threads going at once it's also hard to read back and try and figure it out on my own!) Lucky you with the grand final tickets (not that i'm an AFL football fan - we're a rugby family- but i hear they are hard to get?) Something (else) to look forward to : ) (By the way: that's meant to be a red face above in my post but i think BB still has some glitches cos although it said 'red face' in the smiley box it looks more like a smug grin to me!)

Damprye: Oh no! Sorry things have got difficult again. Hope you find some answers soon. Hugs

intheslowlane: praying that this FET works for you and you have a little brother or sister for your DS.

[intheslowlane]

Hi Damprye,

Hope it gets better for you.

[T-hopes]

lol possum! it does look like a smug face!! hehehe!! And tomorrow will be IUI, we will start IVF next cycle. And yeah. tickets are very hard to get but were members so we are guaranteed them so were lucky xx

damprye - sorry to hear things arent going well with dp, hope you can work thru it or find the strength to do what is best, good idea to put ttc aside though if your not sure xx

intheslowlane - good luck for bt on friday! praying you get a bfp, keep us posted! Hope the week goes fast for you! xx

[happybaby]

Hello everyone
This is just a quick update as I've been taking a break from BB. My scan at 7 weeks wasn't good news. There was a pg sack but no embryo. I was told to come back in a week and the pg sack had grown but it was still empty. The Dr said it's a missed mc.
I have an appointment with my FS on Wednesday to book a D & C as it could be weeks for a spontaneous mc to happen.
I am quite devastated and once I'm over this I hope I'm ready to try again.
Best of luck to everyone.
HappyBaby

[Saffy]

Happybaby- oh no, thats very sad news. I'm sorry it didn't work out this time, we are here for you when you are reay to try again, but in the meantime take care sweetie xx

THopes- yay for today! I hope everything goes great! My DH is a Saints supporter too, he would be jealous that you are going to the GF, i am Geelong

Possum-enjoy your 2 weeks off, I'm sure it will go quickly. GL with the new job are you nervous?

Damprye- I'm sorry hun, you must feel very confused. I guess if you are having doubts its better to take some time to work it out, whatever you decide we wll be here to listen

intheslowlane- welcome! Wow you are in the thick of it, it must be hard to make that decision but hopefully a nice BFP will be coming your way this Friday!! How are you filling in the week wiothout going crazy??

ALice-hi love, did you get the resul;ts of the BT yet? Hope its good. I got vile headaches from the syneral and I couldn't lift my head or have the lights on, has it gone away yet?

SammyP- I think the US people can see the follicles ( they just haven't grown yet) which shows that there are lots of eggs left, sounds like your scan went well I would definately go to Bali, even if you are pregnant you can travel up until about 30-something weeks ( depending on your risk factors) and around the 20wk mark is the best time i think. I constantly put things off cos of thinking I might be pregnant but I am sick of it so am organising a trip to UK next year to visit DH's family.

Hi Sunbeam, Matthew'smum, Ferals, Jupiter, Mildez, Porsche

AFM- well I am in no man's land. Contrary to what I insisted was going to happen my spotting stopped after 2 days, nothing since, no AF, no pregnancy symptoms at all so I guess I am just waiting to see whats going to happen. Because I think I O'd the Friday after stopping my meds, AF probably wouldn't even be due until end of this week?? I did a POAS today but it was BFN, which I knew would be the case as I have completely soft boobies so am sure I am not pregnant. Will just have to wait it out. My hormones are all over the place too I am teary and had a massive fight w DH on Sat just before we left to go up to my sisters for her birthday.

[Alice]

HappyBaby, oh darling, I'm so so sorry I wish there was something I could do or say to make things better for you and to take away the pain and grief of your loss. It is absolutely devastating, so unfair. Sending you lots of love for Wednesday, I will be thinking of you and hoping that everything goes OK and you have a good recovery. You are very brave thinking forward to TTC again and I really hope that you can get through this and a BFP is waiting for you. xx

Ferrals, my heart broke reading about your DH's little girl and her grief over loosing Abbie. I just want these next few weeks to fly by so you can get your good news and let the joy start spreading in the family for this baby. How lovely to feel it wriggling away in your tum - seems like such a strong little one I can't help but feel positive and look forward to you being able to celebrate and enjoy this pregnancy like you deserve. x

T-hopes, only four hours to go girl, yippee!! Crossing everything that you have a BFP coming your way very soon. You're almost in the TWW now!

Saffy, thanks, the headache has been going for three days now. Not a migraine, just a really bad headache that I can't seem to shake. Never had this before so don't know if it is linked to the drugs or a sinus infection (which I'm a bit prone too). Feel super crap though which is disappointing after being generally well for the past few months. Trying to take it easy and rest but not sleeping well either so all in all a bit blah. How are you going? Has AF showed her face? When is your test date? Are you going to test?? Hope you are working on those holiday plans x

Now to catch up with everyone else - will go back and read through what I've missed in the past few days of being under the weather.

[Mildez]

damprye I hope things sort themselves out with your DP

Happybaby I am so so sorry to read about your missed m/c

T-hopes best of luck today. Praying its conception day for you

sammypI would book the holiday also and then re-evaluate as it gets closer. I guess it would depend on how much money I would be out of pocket if I then couldn't go.

I haven't read all the posts. I haven't even been stalking much or on BB much. Just keeping to myself mainly. Will be of to read the posts.

[Alice]

oh Saffy, just read the end of your post. Sorry you had a fight with your DH but totally understandable when you feel your hormones are all over the place. I hope you've been able to sort things out and that your evening wasn't all bad. It's great that the spotting stopped...and I hope she stays away - lots of women say they don't get any symptoms to begin with so I'll be keeping my fingers crossed

Damprye, I'm sorry things are so up in the air with your DP trying to conceive is hard enough without that going on too, I agree with you that maybe it's best to see how things work out before trying again. In the meantime you could start taking the Vitex and hopefully then if things do improve you will have had some time to get your hormones working a bit better for you. Good luck and let us know how you are going x

Intheslowlane, welcome to the thread and all the best for Friday. I hope you have a good strong embie snuggling in there and that you will get your BFP this time.

T-hopes, LOL at you poas just to see those two lines! You know, I think you might have convinced me to do it too since I never did one when I was pregnant last year and it'd be nice to have! I remember telling my DH I was going to have another pregnyl shot just so I could get a phone call from the clinic saying I was pg 'cause I'd never had that. Didn't need to in the end but funny thinking of it now. Hope you get another two-liner very soon!

Hi Possum! Congrats on the new job. Did you get a break inbetween this and the old one? I think you did the right thing and hopefully you've tempted fate and you'll have to have that 12 week conversation after all!

SammyP, that's great news about your egg reserve! Are you going to be trying around 'o' now you know which day it will be? With the trip to Bali, I would definitely go. I have put off so many things in the past ten years in the anticipation that I might be pg by then - staying in jobs so I could get the maternity leave even when I hated them, not committing to family holidays - I would definitely agree to go. A friend told me recently that you can get travel insurance if you are doing IVF and have to cancel a trip. Your family would all understand and it might be that you are well enough to go anyway. You know that old saying - life is what happens to us while we are busy making plans - make some plans and have something exciting to look forward to! x

MatthewsMum, hope the break this month helps and you have a renewed energy for things soon. I haven't heard of that treatment but I have heard that in the States it is common to remove any remaining tubes once one has been taken out due to complications. Even the TCM practitioner recommends it, which is interesting. I've been having herbs to help clean mine out and will be taking antibiotics to help with any possible low level infections with this cycle. Let us know what you find out and enjoy spending time with your family this month x

Sunbeam, I hope you enjoyed having the baby to stay. Oh they smell so good, don't they? I loved reading about your hope blanket, I think that is a lovely idea. I crochet too - started by doing baby blankets for friends. I have a half finished one in there that I look at and wonder if it will be for me. I hope you get to wrap your baby up in your hope blanket soon. How are you going with your cycle? You're a day in front of me I think - when is your first us? Good luck lovely x

Crafty, I hope your craft room is up and organised soon! I can just imagine how much stuff you have - fabric and wool and lovely things waiting to be made. Are the boxes slowly being unpacked? My brother moved the same time as you and I know it is taking some time to get through it all. Hope you are feeling more settled and enjoying having your own place again.

Mildez, Porsche, and anyone else we haven't heard from in a while that I've missed - hope you are all doing really well. And to our stalkers too lovely women, it's nice knowing you are there keeping an eye on us all and sending BFP vibes our way! I hope we get to join you soon.

AFM, well missed my bt yesterday 'cause I just wasn't feeling well enough for a three hour round trip so went this morning. Still got a bad headache but hope it goes soon - shoulders are very stiff and sore so don't know whether I'm fighting off a bug or if it is from the drugs, either way I think I must be a bit stressed because of the tension in my back and neck so I'm going to organise a massage and hope that makes things better. No more news yet - will pop in later to see how T-hopes went x

[intheslowlane]

Hi Happy Baby,

That is traumatic news. I'm so sorry. Your Dr is right though. As sad as a D&C is, it's the mc my DH and I will never get over.

Crying for you and lots of hugs

[Porsche]

Hello everyone
This is just a quick update as I've been taking a break from BB. My scan at 7 weeks wasn't good news. There was a pg sack but no embryo. I was told to come back in a week and the pg sack had grown but it was still empty. The Dr said it's a missed mc.
I have an appointment with my FS on Wednesday to book a D & C as it could be weeks for a spontaneous mc to happen.
I am quite devastated and once I'm over this I hope I'm ready to try again.
Best of luck to everyone.
HappyBaby

Oh Happy I'm so sorry. I've had a missed miscarriage as well and it's not what you are expecting when you have your scan. Take care of you GBH.

[Alice]

T-hopes, congrats on your successful IUI! I hope your DHs excellent swimmers are meeting your lovely egg and all goes wonderfully from there. :babydust: to you xx

Sunbeam, gosh I hope I'm following your path - 14 follies! That's fantastic news. Strange I was going to ask Ferrals exactly the same question about level because I got my bt done today and they told me everything is fine and to have another test and scan Wednesday but I didn't ask what the level was so I will call tomorrow. It's good that you are feeling OK and surely they won't cancel when you compare to Ferrals level?? Hope so anyway. Let us know how you are feeling tomorrow.

Porsche, I'm in a panic - have you had bad news or are you meaning the mc you had before? Sorry to be anxious but just need to clarify. that everything is OK with you.

I've already done big post today so going to go to bed now. I had a great massage and a facial (and a wax so my bits are all tidy for the transfer ) so I'm nice and relaxed and hope I sleep well tonight. x

[possum magic]

Happy Baby: so very sorry for your sad news. So unfair. Take care of yourself.
Damprye: I hope things work out for you soon.

T-Hopes: wow! 10 million! Doesn't it just blow your mind to imagine that many swimmers moving around your body (well your uterus anyway!) Like you've been colonised! Sounds like the odds are good that just one of those little guys will get your gal and get you your BFP!

Alice: Sending you virtual hugs. Sounds like hard work with the headaches and tension. You made me laugh though with a vision of all your 'tidy bits!'
Sunbeam: Mmmm, baby smells. I hope this is just a sneak preview for you for when you have your own little one next to you.

Porsche: I, like Alice, also got a surprise when i saw your post. Are you ok?

Saffy: I feel for you on the hormonal rollercoaster. I am praying it is just too early for a BFP. Take care of yourself.

AFM: I have two weeks off before i start my new job. Not really much of a holiday though because most of the time i'll have DD at home. What i mean is: the two weeks won't be that different from life as usual. I was meant to have a couple of days to myself but one of them went down the gurgler because DD is germy and couldn't go to child care grrrr! Only about my second day to myself ever since she was born so i'm disappointed. But...what can you do?

A bit nervous about what the new job will be like and trying not to think about it too much and freak myself out!