Luna - I did wonder why things went on so long for you. At least with the ectopic being found you now have an answer. I don't think you have to make a decision about stopping until after the 3 months you are advised to wait. Take that time to just live a life without the pressure of TTC and see how you feel in three months. I think Alice's advice about spending that time making yourself healthy is very good advice. I was advised by my own doctor not to try after 43 but I lost a baby 3 weeks before my 44th birthday and I find it too hard to stop just after a miscarriage so we kept trying and now I am now don't know when to stop. I have had doctors since who advise me to keep trying. I often wish I could stop but I know that I can't change my mind in a couple of years and say I wish I had tried a little longer so we will keep going until the end of the year and then have another think about it.

Saffy - Good luck for Monday sweetie.

Alice - I really feel for you. I think children can come to us from different places though and your dream might be fulfilled another way. I will tell you a story (but I am NOT suggesting this be your path). Friends of ours tried unsuccessfully for years to have a baby. They decided to place themselves on the adoption list and requested a baby but it's really hard where they are to get a baby via adoption (they live in Canada). After a couple of years on the list they were asked if they would accept siblings, two girls aged 4 and 7. And so they gave up their idea of a baby and embraced a new dream when they took the girls in. The following year they were contacted by the authorities who told them the mother of their girls had given birth to yet another child (her 8th I think) and this baby girl was instantly given up. The authorities wanted to keep siblings together so they asked our friends if they would consider adopting this baby. And so the dream they thought they had to give up was reborn and now they have a baby. I think you will be a mother one day. It will likely be to your little frostie but it could also come from somewhere unexpected. I think you were meant to be a mother as you have such a good heart.

AFM - AF showed up on day 27 so I doubt DH's eye injury would have made any difference. It's made me feel really sad but I am having a lot of health problems at present so it's possibly a good thing.