arrrrgggghhhhh the hospital has now changed mums surgery date from april 1st to april 15th 'due to unforseen circumstances". turns out its coz its easter weekend when she would be in hospital.just when i had organized DP to have the first off to drive me to coast.and now mum is nagging me that im not getting to visit her much. DP and i are back to sharing a car and he is being slack about organizing another one, so it makes it hard to get to mums over an hour away very often