LT TTC and Assisted Conception Apr-May 2012

**Mrs P** · May 2nd, 2012, 06:48 PM

Hey Amy glad it went well! Jealous your BT is two days before me though, haha!
Mine was a 5 day, grade 1-2, whatever that means. Apparently the average FET success rate at FSWA is 40% - obviously depends on age etc but I'm 33 so not too far over the hill

Following you over to the TWW but will also keep checking in!
Keta - wow that's an even longer wait for your BT as you are 3 dpo. I wonder if they have something against a Monday test?

**me4ever** · May 2nd, 2012, 06:48 PM

Mrs P - Yay you're PUPO! Good luck in the TWW and lots of sticky vibes for you! I'm at FSWA as well, although epu and transfer was done by FSS as it was around Easter...

Amy - lots of sticky vibes for you too!

AFM - FS is a bit more optimistic as they couldn't find anything ectopic... Will be monitored again by blood tests and probably next week another scan, it's still early days, hopefully they can see more next week and hopefully it's in the right spot. Anyhow I'd probably better move onto the belly buddies thread, but will definitely be stalking you guys and of course you'll be all in there pretty soon!! Thanks for all your support! Sticky vibes and baby dust for all of you!

**Mrs P** · May 2nd, 2012, 06:52 PM

me4ever Goodluck!! Fingers crossed your levels skyrocket and this is a sticky bubba for you. You are definitely in good hands - I experienced early bleeding when pg with DD and the staff (nurses) at FSWA were great.

**Keta** · May 2nd, 2012, 06:55 PM

Well done Amy. Can't wait to cat h up and celebrate (with a lemonade

)

Omg just realised I'm clearly needing a good nights rest. I'm not at FSWA, I'm at FSS
That is just embarrassing!

**Amy_jellybean** · May 2nd, 2012, 06:57 PM

Hahaha you crack me up keta!!!! Yay to lemonade hahaha

**Mrs Mac** · May 2nd, 2012, 07:38 PM

Congrats Mrs P and Amy, you ladies are officially PUPO and I hope they stick

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me4ever enjoy being pregnant hun, try not to stress about the "what if's" as there will always be something you cannot control and you should be able to look back on the with happy thoughts.

AFM- all is quiet here, Just waiting to O. I spoke with the FS tonight and he confirmed he would like us to take this month off and do out FET next cycle so i will impatiently wait for this cycle to be over. I was really hoping that we could to our FET this month with no drugs but aparently that is not to be. My cycles are on the long side and a little irregular so I will need to be on low dose GonalF

on the bright side i asked what the success rate was like and he said that as long as the embryo survives defrosting we will still have a 50% chance so that was a little bonus.

**vic261** · May 3rd, 2012, 10:03 AM

3 May April 2012

Got Their BFP's

me4ever 30.04.12

Waiting for EPU/O/IUI/FET or just something to happen!

Bee27 -
myturn - CD5
Mrs Mac - CD11
Planetsasha - CD14 FET Cycle
lyra stardust - CD17

Waiting for Transfer

Hanging out in the TWW (stalk them here: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...178259-17.html

Porche - CD36 10 dpt 2 x day 5 embryo BT 05.05.12
Saffy - CD30 10 dpt 2 x day 3 embryo BT 05.05.12
Vic261 - CD30 10 dpt 2 x day 5 embryo BT 08.05.12
Nothing2Lose - CD34 Natural Cycle, 12dpo
Joeve - CD29 5 dpt 2 x day 5 embryo BT
Amy_jellybean - CD23 1 dpt 1 x day 3 embryo BT 13.05.12
Keta - CD26 4 dpt BT 15.05.12
Mrs P - CD? 1 dpt 1 x day 5 embryo BT 15.05.12

**myturn** · May 3rd, 2012, 10:13 AM

I just booked into see a psychologist next week - I feel like a loser for needing it and a hypocrite for feeling like a loser.

But it's done and at the same time I am glad.

Was wondering what questions I should ask FS next time I go.... And when I should book the next appointment for - considering I am going to have a bit of a break and lose weight first... Should I go and tell him that and talk about it or should I wait and make an appointment for when I am ready to start again??
What do you guys think??

**nothing2lose** · May 3rd, 2012, 11:09 AM

Firstly, you are not a loser or a hypocrite.

Get those thoughts out of your head first and foremost.

Done? Good.

Now. Secondly, I think it's a good idea to make an appointment with your FS now. I don't know what discussions you've had previously but it might give you piece of mind to go through everything thoroughly to make sure you have all bases covered. There are, for instance, extra blood tests you can get after multiple unsuccessful IVF. I think I had them after three or four Stims. Your DH will have to have them too.

Regarding the weight, it is good to lose weight but my FS is not convinced it makes that much difference. I have also read studies which state pregnancy outcomes for obese women using IVF are no different than for women in a healthy weight range. I guess it is a contentious issue...

That said, losing weight is a good thing anyway, and it will make you feel better. However, if ivf is not successful for you, do you want to carry around that guilt forever, blaming your weight for it? Especially since it's not likely the reason.

I am going to be negative Nancy here, but I think it's good to be realistic sometimes. IVF won't work for 40per cent of those who do it (statistically speaking). No one ever talks about it because it's the failure of a dream, the promise of a miracle baby that IVF peddles. It's no one's fault. It just is. I'm NOT saying you are one of those 40 per cent but I hate seeing you blame yourself when you don't have a successful cycle. It's not your fault. It really isn't.

I know exactly how you feel. It sucks having no control. There's nothing you can do but keep trying, keep praying but, above all, learn to accept it is not your fault and you don't deserve this. You are not alone.

**Joeve** · May 3rd, 2012, 11:30 AM

Myturn I agree with everything N2L has said and I am sending you a hug x

**Keta** · May 3rd, 2012, 11:39 AM

N2L what you wrote brought tears to my eyes! Perfectly said.

The control thing is what I find hardest. If someone says I can't do something, I like to prove them wrong. I am a control freak, I like things my way

. TTC really makes you face the fact that sometimes you just can't control everything. Not blaming yourself is hard, but it is true.
My heart is breaking for you Myturn

**nothing2lose** · May 3rd, 2012, 11:51 AM

Thanks Keta

Vic, just noticed you are well into your 2ww. Are you planning on POAS?

**vic261** · May 3rd, 2012, 12:00 PM

Being out of our control is definately the worst part of all of this journey we are all on. I am a bit of a control freak and a big believer in the universe and I can pretty much manifest what I want. But this one massive thing I just cant seem to manifest no matter how hard or how soft I try. I have tried going at it all guns blazing, tried cycles where I have not obssessed and just let it be and nothing seems to work. The whole unexplained fertility gets to me. Unexplained to me, means that they have not tried hard enough to find the reason. My FS said that to get pregnant everything has to be perfect. Well something is obviously not perfect with me or I would be pregnant by now. I know its trial and error and I am trying to be realistic that this is only my 4th transfer and that I still have things to try but I really wish the universe would get wriggle on and think that I have learnt whatever lesson I am meant to be learning right now. It would be lovely to think that we conceived this cycle on our wedding anniversary and with my DH and I starting a new business venture with his wish is coming true. I dont want to whine, but WHAT ABOUT ME!!! Selfish I know. I should be grateful that I have an amazing DH who has supported my every need and want, have a great home, great job and a great life. And I am grateful, believe me. It would be just so nice to start the next stage of our lives.

I know that you all know exactly how I feel and are all thinking the same things. I wish all of us our BFP's.

I dont have any symptoms and dont think this cycle has worked again. Its always the 2nd week blues that get me. I am trying to ignore being in the TWW this time, but as it gets closer (next Tuesday) its more and more on my mind.

Myturn - I would make the FS appointment so your armed with more info. Plus if you need more tests you can get started on them and take your time with them. You want to be ready to go when your up to it again. I definately dont think your a loser and it will probably do you the world of good to talk to someone IRL.

Joeve - My best friend bled the whole way through her pregnancy. She got so many miscarry scares but now has a happy healthy 2.5 year old. If they want to stick they will hunni. We are all here for you to vent x

**vic261** · May 3rd, 2012, 12:02 PM

N2L - Not going to POAS this time. I want to be organic this round and just let it be.

**Mrs Mac** · May 3rd, 2012, 12:50 PM

N2L I love everything you just said. You could be my therapist. Now if I could only believe it myself.

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**lyra stardust** · May 3rd, 2012, 04:04 PM

Well done amy and miss P. Hope the TWW goes fast and with happiness and joy at the end of it!!

Myturn- I have recently started seeing a psychologist that specialises in infertility and am really digging it. There is nothing loserish about recognising that this journey is hard and some people need some extra support to help them through it without going insane. My psychologist says that she can help me develop coping strategies so that I can continue treatment and not let it take over my life, which would be good! I really hope that you find it helpful, and don't feel like a loser, feel proud!

vic261- roll on tuesday and I hope it brings good news. I hear you about feeling impatient to start the next stage. I hope the universe is listening and gets on with iit giving you your BFP!

Good luck everyone else!!

AFM- still injecting, still waiting. Starting to get really anxious again about this cycle. It HAS to work. If not, I have to wait until July before anything else, which I know is not long, but seems SO far away!