Ntl - Yep - definitely stay positive - esp if it's taken 6 weeks in the past! Fingers crossed!
Williever - you poor thing! Endless bt's are awful
JBM - thanks!
Elocin - good luck for Monday! You'll probably be in for about 3 hours - the procedure is usually pretty quick, but you'll be there about an hour before you start and you'll stay for at least an hour after it's done. Your dh will need to stick around to drive you home - they should let him sit with you once the op is done. He'll probably only have an hour or so to kill after he's done his bit
Tantee - thanks! Medicare can be frustrating - I've had claims refused but when I've called to question them they've ended up processing them - all I can suggest is calling and speaking with someone who deals specifically with ivf - the people at the branches usually can't fix things
1moreplz - I can't believe they let you collect your meds and then cancelled on you! I'd be really upset too! I hope the next couple of months fly by and you have lots of success with the weight loss
Saffy - thanks - I know I'm overthinking! It's tough when your partner won't do what you want - I have found it really difficult that I have been eating well and not drinking while dh has done as he pleased. This round he finally agreed to stop drinking until after the pick up, which I'm really grateful for- I was hoping to get three months in but since we decided not to use our frozen ones, it's probably been 6 weeks - mind you if it doesn't affect the outcome I doubt he'll do it again! Good on you for getting him to the ap!
Afm - my new dilemma is keeping my meds cold - a tree has taken out our power line I'm going to take everything over to the inlaws, but I hope our power is back soon - I really don't want to go over there in the morning to do my shot! Very annoying!
Sorry for any weird typos - had to do this on the phone
I wanted to share something that might get you all some more money back!!!
I have been told from the start that the Day bed fee for the OPU was non-refundable by Medicare. Not true!! Mine cost $805 (plus anaesthetic) I lodged a claim and I got back about $250. Better than nothing!!
I dont have private health insurance so every little rebate helps!!!
kass: bummer about the power outage, keep on jabbing and won't be long now. yipee. good luck to you.
n2L: wow interesting facts, i wonder if it is the same if they do it in a private hospital ?, not looking forward to that bill and has to be paid on the day. about $1200 not inc anaesthetist bill.
thanks for sharing
afm: i am trying extra hard to be healthy, had acupuncture yesterday and forgot to post it. lol. she also put me on some fertility support 3 caps 2 x daily to boost my blood and help my body get ready for next IVF/ ICSI.
so exciting...... wish i was jabbing now but won't be long hope 2 weeks time. got meds in fridge waiting for me.
Hi girls sounds like a lot of us are having a struggle this week such a rough ride this ivf journey!
N2L: glad to hear that you have decided to stay positive it is so hard but it really is too early and those HPT suck bigtime i wish i hadnt done them they are just so depressing..
Saffy: 9 follies is great they can be so harsh sometimes! I feel for you with hubbie men are so frustrating i know before we knew my hubbie didnt have any swimmers he was good for a while but they just cant handle it.. Mine is smoker and a drinker too and although he did give up for a while it was really hard for him and i really felt the pressure in the relationship at that time... We now use donor sperm and i have to say as hard as it was to accept that at the time it is much easier just having to focus on me and what i am doing especially with the herbs and accupuncture etc.
1moreplz: Sorry to hear that about the weight gain, i too have put on 10 kilos at least as i am on steroid treatment as well and it is so hard to shift so good on you for taking action... I have been so depressed this week i have eaten that many cadbury cream eggs its ridiculous, cakes etc... Feel disgusting so i have to shift my mental state and get back to the gym and eating well next week! Good luck with it.
AFM: i have probably had one of the worst weeks thru out my whole journey it has s**cked big time!
After getting a BFN last friday i have gone into quite a depressed state eating is out of control and i am starting to doubt that it is ever going to happen for me and my dh.
I am seeing a chinese herbalist in the city and i went to see her on monday and she has told me not to give up as i have a chromosone problem which is obviously affecting my egg quality.. She thinks that she can help me but im just not so sure anymore? I also discovered that i have NK cells which is treatable and i went to see the specialist yesterday to try and get some more feedback on that and find out what i have to do to sustain a pregnancy with NK Cells and he ended up telling me to give up basically that i obviously have a egg quality problem and that the NK cell thing can be treated and that i should use a egg donor and stop wasting our money!
Well how to make someone feel absolutely useless and like a fool i left there absolutely beside myself, questioning everything and have gone from confident to now thinking that maybe it just isnt going to happen!!
I chatted to DH and as we had only found out before this last cycle that i had NK cells we have decided to give a couple more goes to see if being on the treatment for that will make a difference as i have had a m/c before and had to morulas put back another time so it could have been the NK cells that didnt let me sustain a pregnancy?
So hard to know and i couldnt give a s**t about the money we will find it somewhere as i dont believe you cant put a price on getting a baby at the end! Im now thinking maybe we should also look into the adoption side of things as maybe it just isnt going to happen and im just not sure about a egg donor and sperm donor??
Sorry for the rant i am just so confused about everything and needed a shoulder so to speak!!
I am also closing down my business after 5 years so that is going to be quite a change, one i am looking forward too but scary at the same time and i have my gorgeous little dog who has got kidney disease and whose results this week got worse he is still happy and having a great time but me and dh worry about him too...
Aaargh something has to give soon for the better i keep trying to tell myself that but it just isnt happening!!!
Sorry girls thanks for listening i hope you are all having a nice weekend and lets hope things start to take a turn for the better in here x
Oh Willi, I'm so happy for hun!! We'll be TWW buddies again, my transfer is next Saturday.
Thanks everyone for your advice re about DH to hang around at EPU on Monday. There's a shopping centre across the road, so he's just going to hang out over there until I'm done.
I can't do perssies as I'm on my phone, but I hope you're all having a wonderful weekend and staying positive xo
Hi Everyone!
Thought I might join here...haven't been on BB for a while as needed a break..
Just on first FET after M/C at 5 wks with first IVF last month.
So currently doing the daily LH tests waiting for O....Had first BT today as FS thinks O day may be today.
Has anyone else here gone onto a FET straight after a fresh cycle? My FS warned me that my body may misbehave after all the drugs taken for a stim cycle but was pleasently surprised on Tues when he said there was a nice follies and thick linning! He thought O day would be today and therefore will have 3dt on tues...
However one unusual thing...Im having so light bloody discharge (sorry for TMI) yesteday and today which is very unusual prior to O! Hope this means this will still be ok for transfer
Will read everyones post and then do some personals
Hi albi,
I am on a FET cycle straight after a stim cycle. I too am having little to no cm. I was worried, but was told today that O is happening so not worried anymore. The drugs do take a while.......I had 10 follies this month all quite large. Maybe my body wanted more out of the stim cycle? Big chance of multiples so under strict instructions not to 'seal the deal' with DH.
Thanks ladies for all the responses. I am so excited and full of dread that I really don't know how to feel.....excited seems to be the main feeling. I'll stick with that!
Quick q: I have been planning to have my hair done next weekend (bleach and red highlights). Can this still go ahead after FET? Maybe I should go with an all over colour? Oh the important things in life.
Williever - Finally a date! Fingers crossed for an awesome bday present! Not sure about the hair question sorry!
Albi - Sorry to hear about your loss. Good luck with your transfer
Blossom - sounds like things are really tough at the moment Do you know what sort of chromosomal problem you have? Maybe you could look into pgd to sort out the good ones. A second opinion might be a good idea as well. Sorry I can't be more helpful
afm - got our power back a couple of hours ago - hooray! Had to do the shot at the inlaws this morning - bit stressful - DH's mum wanted me to let her do the jab (she's an ex-nurse and a can be a bit pushy) so DH had to distract her for me - I ended up rushing and gave myself a nice bruise - ouch!
Willi - I know some people dont like to get their hair colored while pg...Maybe ask the hairdresser??? Is there any way you can move the appointment forward to give yourself peace of mind?
Kass- ouch for the bruise! I had a couple of doozies on my stomach from the trigger and the stim. They can hurt cant they!
Just wondering when people got AF when they had a BFN cycle. I have not so good cramping at the moment. It really feels like AF is coming. But then I am only 12dpo which is early for me. Would it still be the crinone???
Thanks for your wishes for O'ing - must have helped because I got my smiley face this morning - YAY and we've DTD. And it was good, even though we were still thinking of TTC, we enjoyed it
Have a relay for life fundraiser tonight and a 21st so should keep my mind off TTC at least for a night. I wont be overdoing it and drinking too much though either. Im managing to keep my at bay
Hope everyone has a nice weekend.
Blossom ~ that's horrible they made you feel that way - I thought specialist were supposed to be positive and give you hope. Dont give up though - I'm sure there are loads of people that have had similar issues and gone on to get PG. I would go and see some other specialists and more opinions. I am already starting to look into adoption even though we may try IVF again - because it's a back up and no matter what I know I can't go through life without a child. DH and I have decided against donor sperm - mainly because of DH but I dont wont to push him on that as I see his points. Goodluck hun, keep tryin!
Big welcome to Elocin and Albi ~ with your IVF journeys, hope you guys get BFP's 1st go!
Williever ~ Great news - will have FX'd for Thursday and a BFP for you!!
n2l ~ hang in there - stay pos! Could def be the Crinone - it gave me all sorts of cramping etc.
Kass ~ goodluck with rest of the jabbing - dont get too bruised!
blossom- , what a bad few weeks you have had. The egg quality thing is on my mind too, if I don't get any joy by next year I will be investigating donor eggs ( my youngest sister probably, its only been casually mentioned though) Its a hard call, esp if you are already using donor sperm. Hope things improve for you, I know about the eating thing too, its hard not to comfort yourself when you feel down and food is easy to get! xx
N2L- cramping may still be a good sign, nothing you can do but wait, was your BT the 23rd??If theres no spotting I think you are still in w a chance xx
Williever- I had color done during a TWW before, it really can't be that toxic ( or we would all be having physical effects), and anyway the placenta isn't functioning til 6wks properly. I REALLY think its ok but this is just my opinion, and probably if you ask an acupuncturist etc they would say no. But if you get preggers, it surely it would be better to do it now than when you were 6-8wks?? Makes you feel better too xx
kass- thats funny about your MIL, glad the pwers back anyway!!
albi- GL with the FET, maybe the spotting is O spotting, some people get it. I haven't done back to backs so no idea sorry!
elocin- my DH went home but we only live 10mins away, so if he can entertain himself at the shops thats good.xx
JBM- 2 wks will fly and you will be jabbing xx
AFM- EPU next tuesday that is good because I have that day off so don't need to call in sick. DH was read the riot act about his drinking so is moping around complaining that all his thousands of social events are ruined Also, this is the funniest, when I txted him initially, he tried to blame the bad fertilisation rates on 'work stress' rather than his drinking Give me a break!!!
Last stim cycle i really got stressed about his lack of responsibiltiy but this time I am like you tantee and just letting it go cos its not worth me getting stressed over if he doesn't give a hoot!
So sorry to hear you are still having such a rough time. How awful to be told that by your specialist. I'm not sure who you are seeing re the NK cells but Dr Gavin Sacks with IVF Aus in Sydney is who we saw and had success. There is also another guy in Melbourne Dr Mathias (not sure if I spelt it right) who is a specialist in the field and a girlfriend of mine just had a phone consult with him last week. We had an FS tell us that she had no idea what was going on and that we should also look at egg donor and surrogate because we had just had our 7th IVF failure with no explanation. I had already been to see Dr Sacks but we decided to have one last go with this FS in our home state and although we were very open to a donor we wanted to explore all our options first. She also told me she believed immune therapy to be witch doctoring. Well it worked on the third transfer with Dr Sacks (he said he believed we would have success within three goes) and I now have a 10 day old baby girl. I firmly believe that the NK cell treatment was the missing piece of the puzzle.
The other thing which may be helpful is to get a copy of Dr Alan Beer's 'Is your body baby friendly?' as it is all about immune issues and I recall reading about how elevated NK cell activity can affect egg quality because of the toxins released so treating the NK cells may well have a positive affect on the egg quality.
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I'm going to take everything over to the inlaws, but I hope our power is back soon - I really don't want to go over there in the morning to do my shot! Very annoying!
Do you know what sort of chromosomal problem you have? Maybe you could look into pgd to sort out the good ones. A second opinion might be a good idea as well. Sorry I can't be more helpful
at bay
with your IVF journeys, hope you guys get BFP's 1st go!
Also, this is the funniest, when I txted him initially, he tried to blame the bad fertilisation rates on 'work stress' rather than his drinking
Give me a break!!!
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