Oh oneday thankyou for your kind words but i certainly dont feel very inspirational!!!....words like loser & failure more come to my mind!! I guess the thing is, just like life in general, you just never know what life is going to throw at you. You just have to deal with it the best you can, work with what you have and move forward as positively as you can.
As for donor sperm....we have used donor sperm all along. DH found out 5 years ago that he cant have biological children. It was devastating at the time and took about a year to come to terms with...but now I see family, children & relationships in general in a different light. Genetics definitely do NOT make a good parent. Genetics is still very important in understanding where you come from and discovering who you are as a person, which is why we totally agree with complete openness and telling our kids how they were "made"....but at the end of the day, on the flip side of that coin....it really doesn't matter because it all comes down to creating a beautiful happy family with total love & trust. I think also having had so long to realise that genetics is not the most important thing, we are very comfortable with adoption. We had talked about adoption even before we decided to try for children before we found out about DH....so its something that has been in the back of our minds for a very long time. In fact, it is going to be our next step (with or without giving birth)...it actually feels very right for us
Donor sperm or eggs is not for everyone, i guess it depends how much emphasis you place on your own genetics and how important it is to have "your own" baby with your genes. But for us, children are children everywhere no matter where they come from or whos genes they have....all they want, and deserve, is loving parents to nurture them, guide them, trust them and give them a happy healthy family environment. I believe trust & respect are the most important elements of any relationship (and of course love).....if you open your hearts and embrace children for who they really are then they will reciprocate that love & repect ten-fold!!

All the best for monday with your FS, great that you are thinking ahead and keeping positive, thats how this journey goes...one foot in front of the other...

nicoleh - What are you doing up so early!!! I hope you are feeling a bit better now. Let us know how your little embies are going? I'm sure you will have some very nice ones for sat. Are you puttin two back?

How is everyone else going? I'm not sure there are many of us here? I think everyone is winding down now for xmas (i think i am the last one to go for epu at my clinic tomorrow)
Have a good day ladies...another quote i always remember..."So often the greatest endings have the most difficult beginnings"

Love & Light
xxx