Thanks Keli
Think i'll give them a try - like you say it can't do any harm!
Claudette x
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Thanks Keli
Think i'll give them a try - like you say it can't do any harm!
Claudette x
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Hi ladies
Keli - maybe baby is a little microscope thing that you spit on and depending on the shapes that form within your saliva indicates whether you are about to O or not. To be honest, I didn't find maybe baby the most reliable out of my 'tool kit' and much preferred the OPKs I bought off ebay - much cheaper too as maybe baby is about $80 from the chemist.
And I so hear you about DH not being able to DTD when it counts the most. I never really wrote about it here, but since you've brought this topic up.... (tune out if you don't want TMI!) DH and I had lots of problems where he couldn't even get it up, not that he has problems any other time - only when it really mattered. It turned into a vicious cycle because he would beat himself up about it and get stressed, inevitably blame it on work occupying his mind or something I did (once I was breathing too heavily!!!) and then I'd be in tears. So there were quite a few cycles we missed DTD just before O because he couldn't perform. We had lots of deep and meaningfuls to try and resolve it, but cycle after cycle we'd have the same problem and it seemed like DTD at that time was mechanical and loveless. It was a chore that both of us kind of dreaded each month! So I don't know whether it was coincidence or not, but for the cycle we conceived, I had bought a Karma Sutra book to help inspire us (one with articles, not just the pictures!) and we gave massages, set the scene with candles etc and took it very slow. Anyway, for that cycle we 'made love' and now we're UTD (I actually think it had more to do with the laparoscopy and clomid, but it's nice to think the karma sutra helped as well!)
I guess we sometimes forget that the TTC journey can be just as hard and stressful for our partners and unlike us girls, they often don't have anyone to talk to about these things (or are too embarrassed to talk).
Good luck to the girls coming up to O time.
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Oh Mez, Phew! Thanks so much for the honest reply, I know how much courage that must have taken as it has taken me months to post anything about this also. Glad to know we’re never along (no matter how bizarre our issue may be). Yes I find the same thing, when we are both relaxed and taking it slowly then DTD comes so much easier, but when we’re both stressed and know that performing is very important that’s when the brick wall goes up. Thanks for being so open and sharing this with me. Might have to have a look into the Karma sutra, whatever works I say.
As for maybe baby I think I will just stick with what I’m doing, it’s confusing enough sometimes, and yeah $80 is a bit pricy too, especially if you’re not too sure that it even helped.
On a separate note, did you say you are teaching Pre-natal yoga in Glen Waverly?
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Hi Keli
I'm glad my sharing helped - you are certainly not alone in having to face those issues. The book I got from Borders is called 'Tantric Sex: the path to sexual bliss' by Kavida Rei. I doubt DH will ever read it, but he seems happy for me to make some of the book's suggestions!
I'm currently teaching prenatal yoga in Prahran and South Yarra. This month I'm focussing on some marketing work so more people know about them. I've had some flyers printed so my job over Easter is to get them out there! I figure I won't be able to teach my normal yoga classes soon enough, so I need to focus on the prenatal ones!
Do you know if you are in your 2WW yet or still unsure if you've O'd?
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Hey Mez, Thanks for the info on the book, I might head down to the bookstore and have a look myself also, yes don’t think I have any luck with DH reading it but he is always up for new suggestions when I make them so might be a good idea.
Yeah so I’m still not sure if I’ve O’d, will just continue to DTD for a bit longer I’m thinking until I can be sure, don’t know how I plan on being sure but anyway, ha ha!
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Hey all,
Keli - In relation to the Maybe Baby - I tried it too, but it just showed ferns all the time for me, which is an indication of high estrogen - so therefore I wasn't Oing which was confirmed via progesterone test and hence the need for Clomid. I think it is a good tool if you have regular cycles & O with no issue but for me it was no good. Also in relation to DTD, yep my DH has had issues 'coming' , usually if he is tired or more b/c we have to DTD. That is why we are going by the OPK's, not DTD every second day like the last 5 cycles on Clomid.
Mez - Thanks for the book details - might have to look into it. DH & I are thinking of staying in the City one night, which I'll try to make it around O time, so hopefully that will help too.
Claudette - I tried taking my temp prior to Clomid and b/c I wasn't Oing at all it really was confusing and messed with my head (I didn't know I wasn't Oing at the time), so I have just stuck with DTD every second day for the past 5 cycles on Clomid, which we haven't had any success with, so I have bought OPK's and will be using them this cycle. DH & I are over the DTD every second night from CD 10 to 21. I am hoping this will pinpoint for sure when I am Oing as I only know that it is sometime between those days, most probably on CD 14/15 but don't know for sure. It can be such hard work & so confusing at times!
I just wanted to share something with you that my GF told me. She is going to be starting IUI next cycle & the nurse at the FS office told her to have a diet high in iodised salt. Not 100% sure why but it is something the nurse really stressed to her. Also the FS told her DH to take Menevit (the mens version of Elevit)....
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Claudette- I find all the OPK's tempinf, maybe baby, checkinf for changes in CM etc, all a bit bamboozling. Mind you, if someone told me that a slide rule and a bag of M&M's were the trick, I'd probably try that too! lol
Kel & Mez- I'm really glad someone brought that topic up! We were DTD every day for a about 10 days each cycle, but it was too much pressure and it was painful for both of us. I guess becasue we all feel like it's a task we have to do to get pregnant, the enjoyment and passion goes out of it after a few days! I might just pop out and find that book, Mez, we're coming up for o sometime over easter...
Julia- I wonder why the iodised salt? I'm going to google that. DH and I also use my predicted o times, and my own obs, before we start DTD ever night. We've pretty much got it narrowed down to 3 nights now, and that's more manageable for us! GL this cycle, looks like you, me and Keli will be TWWing together again!
Bye for now!
Bec
Last edited by becnxavi; March 29th, 2010 at 11:14 AM.
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Hey Julia, Thanks for the info on Maybe Baby, yeah think I will just stick with what I am doing as that “seems” to be working most of the time. As for DH having performance issue, thanks for sharing, it’s really good to know we’re not alone in all of this. I was really dreading sending my first post of the day this morning and I have had such a great response from you all that I am now feeling soooo much better and feel that I can tell you ladies anything. So thank you. Also thanks for the info on the iodised salt, do tell more when you know more but in the mean time I will look into it myself. And yes I too have been looking at Menevit for DH, not sure how he’d feel about it but if they think it works we might have to give it a go.
Hey Bec, thank you to you too for sharing your thoughts about the issues with our DH’s. Poor things, I think the pressure really gets to them sometimes, more than we think too. I really appreciate your honesty and input into this topic, I am feeling much better about it just knowing we are not along. GL over Easter.
AFM: Well have done another OPK today and finally I have a +ive, so I’m thinking that I haven’t O’d yet but will do over the next few days, back to DTD then, woo hoo.
GL to everyone coming into O time, yes Julia & Bec I think we are going to be 2WWing buddies this month.
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