LTTTC Two Week Wait Thread #2

[karena]

Now then - these are my thoughts... which could be slightly cynical based on the fact that my said friend is not trying to have a baby atm nor has she ever.

a) Telling me that someone is pregnant - is not a good thing atm!
b) The fact that they were trying for 7 years is not inspiring to me AT ALL, infact, it is depressing. It makes me think that I am going to have to invest that amount of time, energy, emotion, money and effort into having a baby myself - which unfortunately, I dont feel as though I have the strength for that atm.
c) A very big fat sarcastic 'THANKYOU' for telling me that I have 'lots of time' and that there is 'hope for me'! Coming from somebody who couldnt even begin to imagine what I am going through atm is hugely annoying and is making me feel negative about my situation NOT POSITIVE!!!

Im not going to even respond to the message and yes, I know she had the best intentions... but WHY do people say / write things like this when they just have NO IDEA....?????

I read the message to DH and even he said "she has no idea does she?"... and he NEVER says things like that!!!

[briggsy's girl]

Karena - i'm really torn on what to say in regard to your friend's sms.

i believe it was sent with the best of intentions and your friend was truly trying to be supportive and to let you know that miracles DO happen. i can see where she's coming from - it's hard being the person who hasn't had to struggle, to offer words of support and encouragement to someone you know is hurting.

having said all that - i don't think an sms is the best way to exress her support - yes, she could have told you about an IVF success story to boost your spirits a little - but it's better to talk about those sort of things face to face to gauge reactions and know that your words are being taken in the context that you intended them to be taken. iykwim?

hope that the next five days fly for you karena - fingers crossed hun!

[karena]

Hi BG - I agree with you! It was completely out of the blue, I havent spoken to her in ages. It just struck a chord with me thats all.

Have you discussed with your FS how many times you will try IUI? We were told to only try a maximum of 3 times - this is our 3rd. We have an appt arranged already (incase) this cycle doesnt work, to talk to him about where we go from there. I am pretty sure he is going to point us in the direction of IVF... my dilema is whether or not to start on that straight away?
Im getting ahead of myself - I might actually get some good news in 5 days - you never know!
I was wondering what you think you might do - NOT that you will need to because we are all thinking POSITIVELY!!! IFYKWIM??

[briggsy's girl]

hiya karena! oooh - only 5 days! i think this ivf chatter will be just chatter and not needed at all for either of us, but we'll indulge a little anyway!

our FS was a little wishy washy on the "how many IUI" questions - initially they floated 3-4 attempts - this is number four, but first two were cancelled due to no response to the puregon when i was on the synarel - so i'm not sure if this would make me attempt number 2! DH and i have discussed this a fair bit, and, as much as we've thought about the IUI in depth (and will give it one more try if neccessary) we're looking at getting onto IVF before the end of this year if we're going to need it. there are a number of factors we've taken into consideration - the constant hormone fluctuations (i'm on 150-200IU puregon to get 1-3 follies) and the emotional toll, are pretty big, but we're also being practical in that we've already reached the medicare safety net this cycle, so if we need to move to IVF, i'd prefer to do t sooner rather than later to get the maximum amount back from the safety net. it might sound a little cold, but i've had to distance my heart a little and put my "practical hat" on to think about where we're headed.

i agree, it really is a dilemma, and one i'm hoping in the next couple of weeks we'll both be able to packbehind us without a second glance!

good luck hun - only 5 more days!

[sonya1]

Karena - i understand your pain hun. as good as her intentions maybe, sometimes saying nothing is best. i live in a tightknit suburb and most of mine and DH family and our friends live here. i was really upset (which is a BIT silly though) coz after my 2nd failed iVF attempt someone who we all know fell pregnant on her first cycle of IVF. as happy as i was for her, it was hard to deal with as people felt they had something to talk to me about. for the last six weeks i have had to deal with friends and family ringing or visitng and saying 'did you hear *** is pregnant?' and all about her due date and how they went away to celebrate...etc etc.

it is hard to deal with and kind words sometime pierce our heart.

just take deep breaths, you are a strong woman with a supportive partner.

take care

[blackduckies]

Hi girls, Karena I think your friend meant well but I understand why you feel upset also. Just have a look BB most of the girls would have the best of intentions when they post, but I sometimes think" woohh that was a bit insensitive, harsh ,uncalled for", but we are all individual and have been raised in different ways and I think it is meant as support but does'nt seem that way. Try to not worry about it
BG thanks for the good advice, we are heading to Melb this weekend so I am looking forward to that instead of counting days.
Chez the more support the better.
Goodluck for BFP's girls!!!!:

Can anyone answer this? How long after HCG injection is AI usually? I am worried I O later than they expected, we BD the following morning but have no CM so don't know how that will go, just I have O type pain know, and DH is away for work so no chance till tomorrow night. Sorry about the long post. Thanks Pam.

[collo04]

Hi Girls
Hows Things? Karena I know how you feel I have friends tell me that all the time and it ****s me to tears...... All you can do is be gracious because unfortunatly people who arent in our situation just dont get what it means to want something so badly but you have know control in getting it. we were asked on the weekend by my goodfriends husband if we wanted to go to bathurst with them to go baby shopping because his wife is 6mnths prgnant. As if we want to go shopping WHAT THE. My Dh said that it was pretty stupid thing to ask. When we declined they said " Oh come on it will be your turn soon " I DONT CARE I dont want to look at things for a baby I dont even have yet ahahahahahahaah.

Ant who its cycle day 27 for me and I have had Light brown/ rose pink discharge, not alot so I did a hpt and a pale pink 2nd line appeared its only real thing compared to the test line so could this be just and evaporation line??? Its easy to see but this happened once before and I wasnt pregnant but before it looked like a shadow this time it has a splash of colour in it. It sounds funny but I dont even feel like af is coming im actually happy and not as snappy as usual and I have no cramps .. oooh I hope this is it if not its party time on saturdaY for my 30th and I will be slightly intoxicated to drown my sorrows heheheheeh

[briggsy's girl]

omg Collo - that's sounding VERY good hun - i assume you'll be testing omorrow morning with FMU?

blackduckies - with regard to O following trigger - i've been told that IUI is done 24 hours after trigger, and then to dtd again 24 hours later just to make sure O is covered. the little swimmers can survive for up to 5 days...

[blackduckies]

Collo, I hope you are, heaps of luck!!!
Thanks Briggsy's Girl, I think the hormones make you a bit paranoid, not to meantion reading up on the web (so many different answers).Catch you all later Pam.

[Desperately seeking BFP]

Hi ladies,
I have been stalking your site on and off through my previous cycles and first time posting

I am currently in 2WW and cannot seem to relax .......

I am currently on Crinone as my progrestone levels were to high for the injection and I am anaylising every twinge, pain and basically driving myself nuts!!

can anyone else share their symptoms after having had and injection to start with and then the Crinone??? (i haven't had this combination before - either all injections or just crinone)

I have porn star nipples and very sore breasts that were tingling yesterday, feeling light headed on and off and hardly any cramping at all

Has anyone who previously had a BFP had these symptoms or no symptoms ???

Also well meaning friends/family tell me that the more I obsess/worry that it won't happen (ie embryos wont implant) which I find extremly upsetting because that is like saying that I'm "responsible" for the BFN.....

If I new how to relax I would!!

[sushee]

New thread time.