Hi,

Just got back from a family Christmas function for DH's side of the family. Was prepared to see all the nieces and nephews and the night was reasonably ok. What I didn't expect to make me sad was the comments to the other couples as to how much the children looked like their father/grandfather etc.

Even if everything goes well, no-one will ever say that one of my children will look like my DH or his side of the family (we are using a donor). Maybe the chldren will act like DH or his family, but that will be it. And I hadn't really thought about it until tonight.

DH and I talked about it on the way home - he hadn't really taken in the comments, he was haing more fun wrestling with the boys. He said that as long as the kids acted a bit like him, that would be enough.

It's funny - when you get over one hurdle, the next pops up in it's place.

My thoughts are with anyone that's having a really bad night tonight. Bring on the New Year!