Hi Gargy,
Just wanted to say that my son was from my 1st marriage, and was almost 2 by the time DH came into our lives.
You would not believe the similarities they share... not to look at, but many other things.
If you look at them sleeping, its as if they're made up of the same genetics - they both sleep with their arms behind their heads, they both grind their teeth, and they both make the same noise when they're asleep.
Its like looking at the same person watching them kick a soccer ball, and when they talk they both have the same mannerisms.... we have people say to us on a really regular basis that its scary how much they are alike...
Last night we went to a Christmas party where there were quite a few people there we had never met before, and at least 3 times I had people come up to me and say things like, " Gee your son looks like his dad, you didn't get much of a look in there!" - Luke's real dad is of English decent and DH now is Sicilian..... so who knows???!!!
Luke has so many of DH's traits its amazing..... I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now, but I know you will get through, its just so hard..... yet another hurdle that most people will never have to comprehend!!!
Your DH sounds like he has a fantastic attitude.. what a wonderful man he sounds like he must be!!!