Thanks everyone, especially for the

Lisa - had a huge laugh at "trying harder naturally". I wonder what she has in mind? Nurses ringing to tell you exact day and time to DTD - how much harder can you try???

shell - everything you said rang so true with me.

I guess i am sad, as i have always had a good relationship with my mum, and this is such a huge part of my life, but we are excluding her (and everyone else) completely, just because of things they have said and done in the past. I would have loved to have someone to talk to (to give DH a break), but mum just says the wrong things. Thank god i have BB and you girls and i really mean that.