Oh Jo sweety, most people mean well but often their 'advice' or words dont come out as they had intended and they are none the wiser. I love my mum to bits but she said a few things during ttc and after my losses which really made me feel like crap. She always said things like "in my time there was not this many m/c's, oh I got pg at the drop of a hat with you two, and I think if i wasnt 'careful' i could get pg now if I wanted to (she is not even 50)". I used to want to throttle her and id always cry in the car on my way home, thinking why I wasnt able to produce children so easily as her. I dont think she meant to say those things to hurt me and she is so thrilled that im pregnant now. Mothers dont always want to see what is really going on and they try not to admit to themselves that their children are hurting or going through a hard time. My mum was so blase with me, but then my aunty use to tell me how worried my mum was about me getting pregnant or having another m/c. So in her own private time she understood what was happening she just didnt want to deal with it infront of me. So i think your mum means well and probably says those things in hope that she will make you feel better.
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