I think this is going to be a bit of a poor me post, I haven’t been very active on here for a while but can always find encouragement. I have a beautiful and most perfect DS who was conceived on the third month of trying I felt really blessed that it happened so quickly, then hoping for kidlets close in age, we are trying for number two and nothing is working.
We’ve been trying pretty much since I got my AF back casually for about 3 months and then ‘properly’ with the right timing for 21 months. I have tried acupuncture, chinese medicine, counselling, 2 x IUI, 1 x IVF and 1 x FET….The best I got was a natural chemical pregnancy about a year ago. Every test I have had done be it seems to be ‘perfect’ which means I always get my hopes up only for nothing to happen, or thinking that the next baby is just around the corner, sadly not. I was convinced that it may have had something to do with my emergency CS but the scan came back fine. I think I would rather there be a clear issue as then I would have something to work on or try to fix.
I know that I am so lucky to have my beautiful boy, but I also want to give him a sibling so much and meanwhile the age gap is getting bigger and bigger that I fear they will not even be mates. I am so blessed as he is such a good kid but coming from a big family myself I know I won’t feel complete until we have another.
I am sick of being told to ‘relax’ or ‘not think about it’….When you are spending thousands of dollars and spend every non working hour with mums who are pregnant with 2nd or 3rd children it’s really hard, or even celebrating a 1st birthday when you both started trying at the same time.
Sorry to be such a grump, has this happened to anyone else? Or does anyone have any ideas of anything we can do? I think I will do another FET this month (of course the IVF went perfect and we had 5 frozen 5day blasts.) Is there something I can do to help implantation? I did eat pineapple core, nothing cold, rested etc. It seems everything is perfect but still no pregnancy??? Or even just a slap in the face to make me shake out of this slump and stop crying at the drop of a hat.
Thanks for reading xx
Have you had any exploratory surgery, hysteroscopy? I have 3 gorgeous healthy kids and having been trying for my 4 th and final for over 3 years now with 6 miscarriages. The reason I ask about the surgery is because scar tissue doesn't always show up on a scan and also having a biopsy of your uterine lining might also show something up too. I had a hysteroscopy as i thought maybe i had scaring from retained placenta and severe infection but in. The end found out my NKC ( natural killer cells) in my uterine lining were too hig and killing off my embies. have you been cycle tracking? made sure your OV? Please don't give up hope yet, even though i know to well thats easier said than done. The next time someone says to relax and stop thinking about it just say quite firmly and gently " we are past that, it's NOT going to happen on its own". People sometimes say the stupidest things that hurt our feelings without meaning too, they just don't and never will understand what you are going through.
Good luck honey and I hope you find some answers soon xoxo