when it comes to IUI's, we were recommended to DTD same night or next day. also it was suggested not to abstain before FET but i can't remember why.... i know i could never bring myself to do anything night before cos of the "what if there is some there during transfer" factor - ewwwwww, but 24 hours before we always did. even for IUI's, we dtd most times that morning without DH being able to finish - cos i read somewhere orgasm helps to prime the uterus too... go figure!

i have read so much now, i just can't remember what i read where!