Sooooo, TTC #2 after the IVF/ICSI rollercoaster for #1

[MummyNaomi]

Girl or Boy? - I think also that I really want a girl as I have a DS already. I know that we will only have 2 children (if we are lucky enough to be blessed with a #2) as I can't afford another, so if we get a boy that will be it. I will totally love DS #2 (if that is the way things go) just as much and I know that DS #1 would be so, so happy to have a baby brother. I guess now that we are trying I am anxious that if I do get pregnant, and it is a DS, it officially means that I will not get my DD. Before starting to try for #2 I could always say to myself you still have another chance to get your DD.... I know that sounds silly... but it is how I feel.

Coral - its not silly at all, I feel exactly the same. I have a DS and would dearly love a DD next time, but I think being 'fertility challenged' makes you less fussy too, I'll take what I can get hehehee, but if I do have another DS although I'll be delighted, I will always have a want for a DD. We are only having two also, so our next baby (should we get lucky) will complete our family

We'll we had our appt today - I'm off for the ovarian reserve test once my AF arrives, and DH will have a sperm analysis again (same as last time) but 3 years on we need to see where we are at, and then we have a follow up appt early August to discuss that and I guess book on for a Fresh cycle if we are ready!

[Coral73]

Hey Ladies,

Just a quick update from me.... as you can tell from my signature we had a chemical pregnancy for out 1st go back at trying for #2 .

I'm actually quite surprised at how well I handled the outcome (if you minus the crazy POAS'ing 3 days prior to BT !) considering my extreme reactions when trying for #1.

I know being able to give cuddles to my gorgeous DS made the bad news alot easier to bare.... I am so, so grateful to have him and being back on this rollercoaster reminds me of how extremely blessed and lucky we are .

[MummyNaomi]

Coral - Big Hugs to you. I am certain that cuddling your gorgeous DS helped, I'm sorry for your loss and good luck on the next attempt babe

[Baby Dreamtime]

Hi Naomi, Coral, Joy and anyone else who is following along. I thought I would jump in I am CD 1 today for a FET with our last remaining emby. I know the mods like to keep cycle discussions to the sticky threads but I am feeling a little lost and it is almost difficult to fit in in ltttc thread as most are trying for #1. I feel almost greedy for talking cycles when I already have my girls. And I know you will understand. I have had a bit of a rough trot this year. As you can see from my signature my Feb FET was a success but found out at 8 weeks it was a blighted ovum. After a D&C I fell pregnant naturally for the first time ever in my life. Can you imagine my excitement. Especially after having such a long history to get my first BFP. But I started bleeding at 6.5 weeks and to say I was gutted was an understatement and 2 mc in a row has been almost too much to bear. But I am getting back into it as I can't do any thing but and have already decided if this is not successful we go straight into a stim cycle. The wait is killing me already and especially as I O around day 20 so that is 25 days until transfer.

Naomi I hope you get the all clear with your test results and Aug comes soon for you.
Coral so sorry to read about your chemical pregnancy. It is just not fair. I am assuming you are doing another fey this month I hope this one will be the sticky one.
Joy good luck for your coming stim cycle I look forward to hearing how you go.

Best wishes to everyone else xx

[MummyNaomi]

Welcome BD - I know what you mean about feeling a bit guilty wanting IVF baby#2 when others you know are struggling to conceive #1 and become parents. Isn't it funny though - I doubt parent that conceive naturally don't necessarily share the same considerations! Good luck with your FET and I'm so sorry to hear of your m/c earlier this year - how heartbreaking Especially after the joy of conceiving naturally. Hopefully by christmas we will all have pregnancies well underway!

A fellow IVF Mummy friend of mine recently experienced the same - After year of IVF and finally having their DD, they had a natural pregnancy but sadly it wasn't to be - she m/c and it just seemed like a cruel slap in the face

We are gearing up for Aug. I have my ovarian reserve bloods and scan on friday, DH went for his semen analysis on monday just gone - we had a giggle when they called it his 'andrology' appointment - we'd forgotten that from last time. It's all coming back to me - the process of a cycle, the familiarity of the BT, scans etc. I think I had blocked it all out once I got pg last time. I told my boss yesterday just so I'd have a bit of flexibility and understanding about the appts etc when I need to rearrange work etc.

[Coral73]

MummyNaomi – Thank u for the hugs and good luck wishes… as you know in this game we need plenty of both, he, he !

I am glad someone else understands how I feel about having my DD… I feel so guilty even thinking about it as I know any child is a precious gift, especially with the challenges we face with LTTTC&AC that I should not be so picky!

I am sorry to read about your friend also… it is so unfair and sad. Good Luck for your ovarian reserve bt and scan tomorrow… I will keep my fingers crossed that you receive good news . Have you got DH’s analysis results back yet? I have just hit up my DH to stop drinking again and start taking his Chinese meds/ menivet incase we have to go to a stim cycle.
I’m glad you were able to tell your boss about the IVF… makes things so much easier . I have told a few colleagues but not my big boss yet. I am trying to get away with it whilst doing the Natural FET’s.

Let us know how you go with your tests .

Baby Dreamtime – Hun, I am so sorry for what you have been through… my biggest fear is to have a MC and as you said to have fallen naturally and then experience that loss is totally and completely heartbreaking. I do not know how I would handle it at all… I am happy for you that you have found the strength and courage to try again .

Thank you for well wishes also :hugs:.

I so completely understand what you mean about feeling ‘guiltily’ posting in the LTTTC&AC thread. That is how I feel also… I know the girls are nothing but supporting and want the best for any of us but I kinda feel like I am rubbing it their faces… I guess that is because I know how it feels to not yet be a Mum and wonder if I ever will be… It hurts so badly that it is almost unbearable . I feel terrible posting as some of those wonderful ladies in there were cycling with me when I got pregnant with DS. They deserve it to happen more than anyone…

Yippee, for having started another FET!! I am CD5 so we will be cyclying this one together!! So happy to have a cycling buddy . I think you are CD3 so we are only 2 days apart. I usually have 31 day long cycles and ovulate late also – arrgghhh. I think last cycle I ovulated on day 18…. At least we will get to wait together.

On a different note, my DS (who just turned 1) burst his eardrum last night . We have had continuous ongoing problems with his ears and are booked in to see an ENT… I feel so bad for him, although the doctor assured me that he is not in any pain now that the pressure has relised. I just want him to feel better…. we have experienced constant medical issues and he has also been diagnosed with an intolerance to diary and soy.

Good Luck to all those trying for #2 (and anyone reading trying for #1, or #3 or #4...) Sending lots and lots of to all!

[onthefly]

Hi guys
I understand you're need to connect with others in similar situations, but we do already have a LT TTC & AC chatter thread, which is available regardless of how many children you already have. Likewise there is a chatter thread for Parenting after LT TTC.
I hope you can appreciate that we can't have a chat thread for every specific little subgroup - it's far too much work for us If you have specific questions or concerns, by all means start a thread, otherwise please keep the chatter to relevant threads.
Regards,

[Joy08]

Coral 73 - Sorry to hear about your BFN. I know how you feel. I think it does make it a little easier having a little one around to cuddle & take your mind off things for a bit. Hope you are ok

As for me - I am just waiting for AF to arrive and then we start our cycle. Feeling in a good frame of mind at the moment... maybe that's because I haven't started the hormones yet!

Are we jumping over to the LT TTC & AC thread?

[Coral73]

Hey Joy08,

Yay! How exciting . 'ing that AF arrives quickly for you! Having DS was definitely what made the news bearable... I feel so, so lucky to have him .

Yep, heading over to the LTTTC & AC thread... I start my BT's for my natural FET this Friday so will start posting over there soon...

GOOD LUCK Ladies and see you over in the LTTTC & AC thread!