I also find on the subject of miscarriages, people seem to think I am 'recovered' now, like they are done and over with ...but they are not done and over with to me. The loss and grief is still there, it's just more manageable now.
I can't say I relate to the comments about having to go through IVF and health issues, but this, you have hit the nail on the head. And being pregnant again people also automaticcally assume that I'm "all better now" which isn't the case, yes, I'm estatic that I have another little bub on the way, but I wish so much that I could have heard my first cry and gone through my first pregnancy til term with that innocence of not knowing all that bad stuff that can happen...

As hard as it is, it's always best to remember that people say "stupid" things because they have no idea themselves, they have never been there, and although sometimes they hurt it's just the way it is unfortunately.

I'm sorry you're having a bad day chick

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Our Angel , Jayvan 17 Weeks & 6 Days 11/12/2008