Hi everyone, this is a bit of a vent really, but I thought I'd post it here, as some (or perhaps most) of you will be able to relate...

I am finding it really hard to try and be 'up' for other people. I feel as though I have to put a positive spin on our situation to make sure other people don't feel uncomfortable.
I have also noticed other people usually try and put a positive spin on it somehow, I think they do this with the best of intentions, to try and make me feel better, and also to try and make themselves feel less uncomfortable talking about something difficult. But I must say, sometimes all I want people to say to me is "oh, that's really hard, that must be tough" etc. Just plain understanding.

instead I often get things like "oh well, onward and upward" "you just have to stay positive, it will happen", or "i'm sure you'll get there in the end, you are just having an adventure on the way" (some adventure);
or, now that we have medical issues identified which have caused the miscarriages (but have not caused the difficulty getting pregnant...thats an issue with my tubes, which has not changed), I constantly get:
"oh well, this is good, now you should be able to fall pregnant easily right" (well, no)... "or, this is great news, now you can proceed forward" (yes, it is good news having answers for sure, but sometimes it's hard always having to be upbeat about having another medical problem identified...things that affect my health, require medication and monitoring and which mean any future pregnancy will be high risk and need close care).
I always go along with the positive comment, as I feel I have to, and say something like "oh yes, of course, moving forward now! I'm sure our turn will come soon, laugh /smile". sigh.
I think I am just having a bad day and am at a hormonal time of the month, but I really am tired of having to put on a positive front for others, even though I know they usually mean well, or simply don't know what else to say. It's making me feel less and less like socialising in groups, because I find it hard work.

I also find on the subject of miscarriages, people seem to think I am 'recovered' now, like they are done and over with ...but they are not done and over with to me. The loss and grief is still there, it's just more manageable now.

Sorry for the long vent ladies. Does this get to other people sometimes too?