darl, people will always say rude things, someone said to me that im irresponsible cause DP and i are not "set up" yet, as in own a house etc...so i said, you think itd be better to wait til we have a debt of $400k? she was a bit taken aback by that one LOL

im planning on staying hm for at least a yr, cause that suits us (i worked out that if i go back to work i will lose alot of centrelink benefits plus childcare costs, even if i went back 30 hrs a week wed only be about $100 a week better off, not worth it IMHO)
but its diff for everyone. i dont think youre selfish at all. just make sure you research and check out whichever child care centres your keen on sending your bubs too...my friend just went back to work fulltime and puts her 7 month old in CC, since hes been there he has become very clingy cause the CC workers hold him ALL day, she gets hm from a day of work and he wont let her leave the room for 1 minute....and theyve mucked up his previous sleeping patterns too.
just gotta weigh up the pros and the cons, HTH GL