Rory: oh for sure! I'm kind of wondering what will happen when I end up in the professional role as fulltime teacher... will DH start doing some of the home duties that he hasn't had to worry about for years? Somehow I don't think so... I am going to be expected to somehow juggle my new responsibilities with maintaining the house as well As it is every weekend DH and I bicker because he needs so much sleep because the demands of his job are so great during the week... so what about me catching up on all the sleep I've lost dealing with the boys at all hours of the night during the week? Actually, sometimes I get a bit of a sleep in too... but more times than not it's me out mowing the lawn while he's asleep on the couch while he "looks after" the kids!

I predict, when I also take on a professional role, a huge tug-of-war between my DH and I in terms of finding time for ourselves.... and him expecting me to still do all those little things in life that make his life/job easier. I like your quote about every family needing a "wife" Rory... it's had me thinking a lot about that lately... all those things like Christmas Shopping (for example) that require huge investments of time and energy that most husbands just take for granted.... they wake up and it's all there for them on a plate.... *sigh* who's gonna do that for me when I return to work?

ETA: there's also things like accompaning the kids to doctors/dental/hair appointments... and making those appointments for DH too... I just have to tell him what day and where... he just goes without even thinking about it... he just trusts that I have everything organised.