Thanks for your replies. I'm feeling a bit more positive about maybe doing 3 days per week. I'm pretty sure I'll appreciate some time away and it will probably make me appreciate the time I have at home with DD even more. When you have a 3 month old, it's so hard to imagine what they'll be like as a 1 year old and how they'll manage, but I have to start negotiating with my boss soonish. i'm pretty sure this is going to mean a demotion because they like their managers to be there at least four days per week, but this will mean less responsibility for me too, so that's ok.

I'm hoping my mum will be be able to help with a bit of child care, and that would be nice for her and DD, but this is not definite at this stage. I'd feel much more comfortable leaving her with a family member than in day care at this young age but this may not be possible.

I'm loving these bellybelly forums, I have a mother's group and a couple of friends with babies and older kids, but so rarely get to have a proper conversation to ask these sorts of questions.

I miss uninterupted conversations. And cups of tea. And, yes being able to go to the toilet when I need to.... the things we take for granted before babies! Of course it's all worth it.