My part time base wage is same as dh full time wage. Smart thing would be have dh be sahd, but he doesnt want to do that, he needs to get out and go to work.
Similar here about with DH - last year despite periods of no contract and being part-time I earned more than DH. Before we had kids I earned 3 times what he did - before having children we both thought that he would become the main caregiver and I would work - but that wasn't a workable reality - we tried for a while but I couldn't do the full-time long term and he couldn't do the part-time from a personal and career standpoint (and really wouldn't have wanted to be a SAHD, one because he hasn't got the temperament and two because he hadn't developed any sort of career at that point and to be a SAHD and then try and enter the workforce at 40+ was never going to work). Short-term the best option for us financially would have been for me to stay in full time employment and for him to either find part-time or stay at home - but long-term that would have been problematic financially.

For my children I hope when they are older the situation would be a little different because currently I would be advising them to think about how well the career field they want to go into fits with a family, and also the financial earning capacity of whoever they choose as their partner if they do want children and how they would work it. When I was younger I thought people who were making career and study choices based on what would work well for family life were bonkers - now I wonder if they were the sensible ones? - however I think it is bad for society in general if certain careers are dominated by certain types/gender but to stop that you need to make more jobs more compatible with family life - and move away from the one person has the career, the other person supports them by running the family (and may do some paid work also) type model.