I have no idea what the answer is, I actually quite like this job and I think it has prospects but unless DH manages to get a really flexible job with an easy commute (the likelihood of that based on previous experience/attitudes to men and flexibilty, seems small) it just isn't sustainable. I just hope by time DD is a parent the working landscape has changed, so everyone can work if they want in a variety of careers and have time to spend with their kids everyday (actual time to do stuff like practicing reading, games etc not just eating and bedtime). It isn't just working though that has to be addressed is housing affordability too, roads and public transport etc so people don't have to spend hours commuting.