Hello, I feel a bit like I'm not allowed to post here as I don't have HG but severe morning sickness. So I hope you all don't mind.
I just need a little advice on how to deal with being so sick and still getting on with life. I work two days a week and have a two year old at home. Most days I vomit but even when I don't feel so awful that I still can't manage the housework or cooking and I've lost weight. We have spent so much time at home I feel like a bad mother as my DS isn't getting the activities and socialising that we normally do. I have avoided having anyone visit except for close family as I'm embarrassed by the state of my house
My other issue is my DH. I had morning sickness til 35 weeks in my first pg which was almost ignorable after 20 weeks and my DH was amazing. He was so supportive, emotionally and with household chores and cooking but this time around it's like he's ignoring the fact that I'm not well. He helps a lot with DS but nothing else and it makes me feel really alone and guilty for not being on top of things when he works all day. Not that he says that but it's how I feel.
So, I guess I just needed to get that out and wonder what strategies you've used to get through the days?
Firstly to you. M/s is awful and you are most welcome to post here.
The main piece of advice I can give is that you really need to listen to your body. Dont force yourself to do anything you dont feel well enough to do, because most likely it will make you feel worse. Try to get as much sleep as you can because tiredness exacerbates m/s. If you can stomach smaller meals then try that because an empty stomach makes m/s worse. Your DH might go to work all day but I bet he would have a ton more energy at the end of the day than you do right now, so he should do more housework/cooking than he normally does and you could remind him that m/s doesnt last forever, and that you really are unwell at the moment. Unfortunately, I was too sick for any strategy to really help me get through the day so I was miserable the entire first half of both pg's and my DH had no choice but to do everything.
Most of all though, dont allow yourself to feel guilty about not doing enough. Its not your fault that you feel so sick. I felt very guilty that I couldnt care for DS1 at all which meant that my mum had to take him every day and this caused me to get very depressed. You have to realise that you will go back to normal eventually and you will be able to do everything again.
I hope this helps you. You are doing the best you can under difficult circumstances.
Hi melsa31
Another big from me and as DG said you are very welcome in here!
I dont have a lot to offer because I couldnt get on with life and I didnt have another child that I had to chase. This may sound odd but try some peeled green apples, chew them up ALOT and it may help to ease your stomach a little. A few ideas I was given (although didnt work) were the sea sickness bands and eating protein ie a piece of cheese, its meant to combat the nausea.
Please do not feel guilty, you will get back on top of it all and there is no point trying while you are sick because, well be exhausted is only gonna make you feel worse.
Sorry not much help
I didnt know this thread was here, I am 16 weeks and what started out as bad ms as I get further into my pregnancy has turn into HG. I had a bad week this week and my DP was interstate so even though I knew I should have went to the ED I didnt and now I cant seem to get back on the top of things. I am scared to eat, I just cant deal with the sensation of throwing up any more, undigested food and worse. Sorry TMI. At least I seem to be holding down mineral water now, but since my latest extreme illness I can stand the taste on normal water. I'm trying to eat small meals or nuts, carrot sticks but I have lost more weight and worry what this is doing to me and the baby. I havent touch the housework in ages and feel like a bad parent to my daughter. My DP is going away again next week for 2 weeks and I am so scare, that he will be so far away. We dont have family support near us and I have only lived in this area for a couple of years and havent really made a close friend yet.
Any tips on changing this mind set Im in, its like I have given up?
DG its lovely to see you in here, your a gem supporting these women.
Sorry that you have had to join the ranks of HG sufferers but a warm welcome anyway. Have you tried eating peeled green apples, apparently there is some kind of thing in them that assists to ease your tummy, as you can see Im very technical in my description
Try not to feel guilty, you are doing the best you can in a bad situation. It seems like the world is on top of you now but it will go away, eventually. I dont have much advice as I didnt suffer through it with another child and was bedridden and hospitalised for most of the first half. You may need to speak to your GP about medication if nothing else is helping and you are at risk of dehydration etc. Dont worry about what its doing to your bubba, that little one is taking everything from you. you're the one suffering
Wellllllll I think it is about time I came clean.........I am expecting baby #2 in October!!! Sorry for not spilling the beans a bit earlier (I am 12 weeks now), I just don't do the 'sharing details online before telling my family and friends' thing. Hope you understand. I realise the irony of starting a support thread then not posting in it at the appropriate time, but hey, I've been supporting others so I haven't just been hanging around making the place look untidy
So the big question is have I got HG? The answer is I'm not sure but I think perhaps NO!!!! I have had some pretty crappy times and have been pretty horribly sick, but it is way better than last time and I am already seeing the throwing up tapering off - woo hoo! I personally think I have just pretty bad MS and have had a few gastro/stomach upsets that have seen me have a few HG like days, but it has been a week or a few days here and there, not constant IYKWIM. I still have the nasty nausea a lot but hey, it's just nausea, I can deal with that. I am still on maxalon and when try to stop I get sick again, but again I can deal with that.
Sorry about the ME ME ME post. I hope all of you that are going through the dark days at the moment are getting close to some better days...x
I suffered through 37+5 and 43+5 weeks of HG with my two. To make matters worse I had a blood pressure of about 70/40 and so for most of the day I was either passing out or vomiting or passing out and vomiting. I was prescribed maxolon for a short time, it didn't help one iota and moreover, we discovered that I was severely allergic to it. During my first pregnancy I had gallstones and had to have an open operation to remove my gall bladder at about 23 weeks pregnant. When I got pregnant with number 2, I really hoped that the vomiting had been caused by the gallbladder issues and hence wouldn't reoccur but I wasn't that lucky. Like other people, I have come to realise that as terrible as it is, I would rather be extremely ill and get to keep my babe. I have had 5 pregnancies and have only 2 little ones the three that are no longer with me did not make me sick at all.
Welcome to the thread, although Im sorry that you had to endure such an awful time of pregnancy. I hope that you are finding ways to heal from the trauma of such a hard time
I have avoided having anyone visit except for close family as I'm embarrassed by the state of my house
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to you. M/s is awful and you are most welcome to post here.
the three that are no longer with me did not make me sick at all.
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