WHat a nice interesting thread!!

I have often pondered this myself as i was coming to terms with my own losses. I came to completely "uneducated" idea that a spirit chooses its parents and is "around" for conception and very close tot he parents even before. Then during the pregnancy as the physical form grows, the spirit has a time of adjustment and can in a sense, weave in and out of the physical form, but can not stray far from mum or the physical form.

Then i think there is something that happens once the first breath of air is taken. A complete connection of mind body and spirit as life is breathed into the physical form.

I can go into how i came to these conclusions based on my own hopes for my angel babies and re-incarnations, but as i said- they are not based in any education, just hopes..

I lost my little boy at 18 weeks, his body wasnt formed properly, so i like to beleive his spirit didnt have to be trapped in it and in pain. I felt him though (not physically- spiritually) so i know he was around, but i hope he wasnt feeling pain.

Oh and as for physical resemblance, if i had photo of all three of them (Darren who i lost at 18 weeks didnt really have any distinguishable features) at birth- you would swear they were all the same baby

I lost my daughter at 36 weeks, she died inutero and never took a breath, but with her pregnancy- i did feel that her spirit was more grounded to her physical body, she wasnt floating like her brother, she was grounded. So i beleive that she did experience some of a connection with her body.

Then i go to my ideas of re-incarnation and the idea of "spirit babies".. my babies didnt get to take a breath. They didnt cement the mind, body, spirit connection, so as far as i am concerned, they got to come back to me... in the form of my earth babies, my little boy, and now my little girl. NOw with the concept of mind, body, spirit, i know they are not the exact children i lost, they have different physical structure, different circumstances that make them who they are, but i beleive they are the same soul's that my angel babies would have had.

But thats just my thoughts No evidence!!

(oh except MD my daughter has marks on the back of her neck too- and both of them had marks on their right eyes, though Zahra (angel lost at 35 weeks) didnt- any thoughts there???)