The other thing they mentioned is when children die young, their incarnation was not for their soul's benefit, but for their parent's.
Yes i have been told by phsycics that my angels came and went so quickly to teach me lessons, and i have been able to accept that on some levels.. also that for their own soul lessons, they only needed to learn and experience unconditional love- which they got in that short time by being with me... i have had more than one person tell me that it had a lot to do with my own past lives and lessons, but that i have made leaps and bounds in this life by going through those experiences. Two seperate meduims told me about previous lives where i constantly lost babies time and time again, life after life, and so i needed to loose them in this life to recall the feelings and put closure to them, and i did that, and thats why i was able to go on and birth my live children- which i hadnt been able to do for many many life times.