didn't want to have to write in here...

[Heaven]

Thanks Lulu. Nope not working or anything. I just finished my uni and haven't started looking for a job yet, phew, will put that on hold now. I'm grateful there's no pressure to work or anything yet and I can do it when I'm ready.
We had only told immediate family so DH just rang mum and she told ppl for us, I didn't want to talk to anyone.

[sportychick]

Sara Jane, I;m so sorry for your loss. It sucks in major way. Wish I could say something that helps, but I'll be praying for you.

[River]

OH Sara honey, I am so sorry to hear this news . I have sadness in my heart for you and I will be thinking of you.

Take care of yourself and rest up.

I am so so sorry for your loss darl.

[Cricket]

So sorry to hear about your little one, SaraJane. I can't take away your pain, but I am thinking of you, and pray that you will receive comfort and strength. You know where your baby is - resting in the arms of your Father, who loves you both more than you can ever know.

Take time to grieve with your DH.

[dusty]

oh hun, i am so so sorry to see your post and hear your sad news. i was so happy for you when you got your BFP and this is such a cruel cruel thing to happen to you. i don't have any advice but i wanted to send you lots of warm hugs and special thoughts.

xx

[paradise lost]

SJ, more I wish i was closer so i could come barging round your house with wine and trashy magazines and real hugs.

Some more info re: waiting: with #1 i had what i thought was my normal AF for a bit (we didn't know about the baby until i lost it) - i spotted for about 2 or 3 days and then the bleeding began. Once i'd started to cramp (the day after red bleeding began) it was all over within about 8 hours, then i just bled for another 3 or 4 days, after which it got lighter and lighter and stopped 4 weeks after the initial spotting had begun. With #2 i spotted for 13 days before the bleeding got heavy and i lost the baby on day 14 then spotted until a few days short of a month from the initial spotting starting.

Remember this is all on your terms. If the waiting gets too much you CAN have the D&C, sometimes a woman's body just has problems doing it by itself, but i would say you could safely wait certainly another week if you're comfy and so long as you don't have other symptoms (fever, headache etc.).

This liminal phase of not-pregnant-but-non-not-pregnant is so so hard hun. The waiting is agony, but let me tell you, in 10 or 11 months when your precious bub is staying in past his or her EDD you will be MUCH better at waiting after this. One of the biggest fears i had even after my furst loss, was that i wouldn't be able to have a baby, but i did. And you will too SJ, you'll get your baby.

My Nana always used to say "jesus only gives crosses to people who can carry them". There might be times when it feels unbearably sad, but even if you think you can't do this, Someone knows better.

Giant hugs to you. I hope your wait is smooth and short.

Bx

[sneakysparkle]

I'm so sorry sweetheart
Praying for you babe xo