didn't want to have to write in here...

**Heaven** · April 28th, 2008, 04:50 PM

Thankyou Cat

**MeredithD** · April 28th, 2008, 09:19 PM

SJ - I am so so sorry for your loss.Life can be so cruel - to give us a precious gift then snatch it away just as our dreams are unfolding! It is so unfair and my heart breaks for you and all you are going through. Sadly, i know all those emotions only to well.
Not trying to change your mind on the D&C issue but I will just give you my personal story and opinion. I have done it both ways and would defnitely go the D&C. I have lost 4 babies now but actually "losing" them, my body is not keen on at all. My first m/c was quite early (5 weeks) and I did start out the "natural' way but after a lot of pain, ended up with a D&C as it just wasn't all clearing out. My next two were "missed m/c's" and I elected D&C because I couldn't handle carrying dead babies around whilst still feeling all the pregnancy symptoms. I needed closure and I also wanted to have my babies tested. Mind you, I still ended up with retained products after both D&Cs. Last time need a second D&C but this most recent m/c looks like I will pass the rest myself.
I am sorry if I am sounding so negative to "natural" m/c. I am in no way trying to deter you from the very personal decision you have made. Just wanted to warn you that it doesn't always "complete" itself naturally and may take quite awhile eg weeks. With your HCG and prog levels still quite high, your body does still think it is pg and so may hang on to your baby for some time yet. Even after a D&C almost 3 weeks ago, my HCG is still 900 (I still feel m/s almost all day!) and my temp only dropped yesterday so I am guessing, without surgery, my babies would still be in there now, almost a month after they died.Personally, I just could not have handled carrying them around that long.
Praying for you that things happen sooner rather than later and you are able to "birth" your baby as you wish. Remember, your health IS a priority so if things aren't going well, then please get medical attention.

**Heaven** · April 29th, 2008, 05:14 AM

Thankyou Meredith.
It looks like things are going to plan and it started last night, phew.
Gotta run, will talk to you all when I get back.
Thanks girls