Curious - I am so sorry to hear of what you are going through. What you have to try to remember is that there is not right or wrong way to feel about it all! You will feel what is right for you no matter what anyone says. Listen to yourself and make sure you can talk to your partner about it, it may seem as though he doesnt understand but he is going through his own pain too. The fact that you only found out yesterday must be making it so hard for you at the moment though. As you said, sometimes ingorance may be bliss.

Please know that we are all here for you, many of us have unfortunately experienced m/c too. I know I couldn't have got through mine without the girls on here!