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    Hi guys,




    Found out yeaterday that I was about five weeks pregnant but have lost the baby (details are in general conception discussion). I'm not really sure what to feel at the moment and just want to vent I guess.

    I only found out that I was definately pregnant yesterday, but by then it was too late. I've had a bit of a cry over the whole thing but am now confused. I know that on the good side I didn't get to become emotionally attached, but on the bad side I know that I was pregant, that there was a baby there, but that now it is gone. I feel a bit lost really.

    I really wish that I just didn't know about it at all and that I could have just been left thinking that it was just an unusual period. The "Ignorance is Bliss" kind of thing I guess. I hope it's not wrong to think like that.

    Thanks for listening

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    I'm so sorry about your loss. Unfortunately I have had a M/C too and I know how much it hurts. There is nothing I can say that will make it better, but just know that I understand, as do many on BB and that we are here for you to vent as much as you need. Take care.

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    My ectopic pg ended two weeks ago, today......I don't know how to answer you, sorry. My DH has basically said that he doesn't want to talk about it because it upsets us both and we have to "carry on" for DDs sake.

    I wish you all the very best.

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    Oh Curious, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I have suffered from 2 m/c, so I unfortunately know how very difficult this time is for you.

    I tend to believe that it doesn't matter how long you have known you are PG for, there is an immediate bond that forms, and you consciously or unconsciously start making plans for your future as a family.

    I really don't think it's wrong to have any of the feelings you are having either. How you feel about this and react to it really does differ from person to person, and the most important thing is that whatever you are feeling, you acknowledge it and try to talk about it....it really does help. Feel free to vent here and just get it all out if you think it will help....we'll try to support you as best we can.

    Take care.......

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    Sheree,

    A huge hug to you. I am so sorry. It must be hard not being able to talk about it at home (not that I'm faulting your DH, because I know some people need to deal with differently than others), but as iris said to me, the people at BB are here for you anytime you need to vent.

    All the very best for the future,

    Curious

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    Hi Curious,

    Sorry to hear of your M/C.
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    Hi Curious,

    I am so sorry to hear of your m/c. to you. I know all to well what you are feeling atm, and it doesn't matter whether or not you found out yesterday or weeks before, it does still hurt and you do need to grieve, it was still a part of you.

    If you ever want to talk please remember that we are all here for you whenever you need to vent. Also you are more than welcome to email me at any time to vent aswell.

    Take care

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    Huge hugs to you, Curious.

    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your precious little bub.

    Take care.

    Angel.

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    Sorry to hear of your loss - I also lost one at 5 weeks - I had known for a week. I know it doesn't seem like it but you will feel better after a while. and :smt058

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    Curious - I am so sorry to hear of what you are going through. What you have to try to remember is that there is not right or wrong way to feel about it all! You will feel what is right for you no matter what anyone says. Listen to yourself and make sure you can talk to your partner about it, it may seem as though he doesnt understand but he is going through his own pain too. The fact that you only found out yesterday must be making it so hard for you at the moment though. As you said, sometimes ingorance may be bliss.

    Please know that we are all here for you, many of us have unfortunately experienced m/c too. I know I couldn't have got through mine without the girls on here!

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    Curious, sorry for your loss. you will definately find a lot of support from the BB girls. I know I did when I lost my twins.

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    Curious, honey Im so sorry for your loss.

    Huge massive 4 u darl.
    Take care.xx

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    Hi Guys,

    Well I've had a very strange last few days and on Friday at my follow up blood test it got stranger. My hormone levels, instead of going down like the doctor said they would, have almost trippled.

    So what does this mean? Basically the doctor said it could mean two things -

    1. That I am having complications from the miscarriage

    OR

    2. That I am STILL PREGNANT (but only a few weeks, instead of the 5 that they thought) and they just missed it on the two untrasounds that they did.

    I have been told to stay home for the long weekend and then go back to the hospital on Tuesday and have another blood test and ultrasound to see if they can see anything this time. (Looking for Ectopic or normal)

    OH MY GOODNESS!! My brain is scrambled right now
    :boggle:

    I will let you know either way what happens as soon as I can.

    Curious :flower:

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    I'll be praying for you Curious....whatever happens after the long weekend though, just remember we'll all be here to support you!

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    Oh my gosh Curious that must be so hard to deal with. Fingers crossed you get some good news on Tuesday.

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    Curious, you must be so confused at the moment. Good Luck for Tuesday I hope it`s good news for you.

    Take Care

    Deeanne

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    Big hugs, Curious. Will be thinking of you on Tuesday & hoping for some good news for you.

    Take care.

    Angel.

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    Hi Curious,
    Thinking of you at the moment and am [-o< that all is ok with bub and you get great news next week. Take care, and if at all possible try and relax or at least put your feet up. We are all here to support you no matter what. Hoping we will be celebrating next week

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