Hi Lulu,
Just wanted to pop in to see how you are doing. I know what you mean about people saying 'It's probably for the best'. I hated hearing that too. I really found that I could only talk to people who had been through a m/c too, it was only them that could really understand what I was going through. The pain is still there, but believe me it does start to get a little easier, although I know that doesn't seem possible right now.

In terms of crampiness after the d&c. I was pretty much fine without any bleeding for about 4 or 5 days and then started to get some cramps and bleeding after that. It then lasted for a bit over a week I think, but my body seemed out of whack for a good while.

Your DP sounds like a great guy. It's hard for them to understand and grieve too sometimes I think. Most guys bottle things up inside.

Just know that we are all really thinking about you, and we are here whenever you need us. Take care