Like Michelle, the dreams still happen to me too. I agree with the others that it is a way for us to process the grief. Now I look forward to the dreams because they're happy dreams of my son.

I have my moments too where I am out with my family, and I feel like we're missing a child, so my heart starts racing and I count them... I count 3 and realise they're all there, but still feel like one is missing and then I realise it is probably my brain searching for Noah.
After we lost him, I went to check on the kids whilst half asleep and did the same thing... I counted 2 kids but knew in my mind I had 3... I was frantically searching around for my 3rd baby when I woke my DH... I was in tears when I woke properly and realised what had happened.

Big hugs Tanya.