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thread: Ergh

  1. #1

    Jan 2008
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    Ergh

    So tomorrow is the funeral I should be thinking of that right?

    BUT

    All I can think about is desperately wanting to be pregnant again she isn't even cremated and it's what I'm thinking about. I dunno maybe it's a good thing I'm trying to look forward but I feel **** for thinking it.

    No need to reply just airing thoughts

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    Apr 2009
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    Hun- there is no right or wrong way for you to feel at the moment....
    Big hugs


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    hun absolutely normal. Many women feel like this after having a baby, you have been through something SO traumatic and heartbreaking, of course it is natural to want to go back to what was once a time of so much anticipation and hope.
    Thinking of you tomorrow xoxoxo

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    I felt the same way Its perfectly normal.


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    Hun- there is no right or wrong way for you to feel at the moment....

    Well said. Sending you love and strength for tomorrow

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    May 2009
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    in exactly the same boat!! talking to DH last night i was saying how i don't want to replace J, but i want another baby.....and he was saying he understands, but he's not there yet, he's not ready to think about that....which made me feel bad (not his fault) because i was thinking about another baby.....gah it's so hard!!!

    i wish i could say something that make you feel better, or that would make all of us feel better.........all i can say is im here for you if you need to talk or need to ask anything.....massive to you, and really hope it goes well tomorrow. you will be in my thoughts, and i hope you have a lovely goodbye service for your beautiful Hayle May xoxoxoxoxox

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    Emma09
    Hun- there is no right or wrong way for you to feel at the moment....
    Big hugs
    Exactly
    I have never been though what you are going through but honestly there is no set way to react in my opinion. Everyone deals with things differently Your bubby is beautiful

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    As everyone has already said, there is no right and no wrong

    Whatever you do, do what feels comfortable

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    don't be so hard on yourself i'd think it was totally normal, you feel you need to replace that hole that you now have. Doesn't mean you love your little angel any less!

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    Hugs hun as everyone else allready said there is no right or wrong way to feel right now.

    xoxo

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    Big Thinking of you xox

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    Ahurani. You can't help but feel what you feel & want what you want. FWIW I think it's a really positive & encouraging thing to be planning for the future already. I know that you will grieve Hayley for the rest of your life, so don't feel guilty that you should be thinking of ONLY Hayley when her funeral is tomorrow. You are allowed to think outside of Hayley's memory.

    Wishing you all my love in the world for tomorrow. Chin up! xx

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    Mar 2010
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    I actually think you are amazing being so positive about the futre and think it's nothing at all to be ashamed of. In your heart, you must know things will work out with a better outcome next time and maybe this is Hayley's way of saying she wants you to try again when you are ready. Take care of yourself tomorrow and always.

    xox.

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    Ahurani. You can't help but feel what you feel & want what you want. FWIW I think it's a really positive & encouraging thing to be planning for the future already. I know that you will grieve Hayley for the rest of your life, so don't feel guilty that you should be thinking of ONLY Hayley when her funeral is tomorrow. You are allowed to think outside of Hayley's memory.
    I agree xxx
    Be thinking of you xxx

  18. #18
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    Jul 2008
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    Ahurani. You can't help but feel what you feel & want what you want. FWIW I think it's a really positive & encouraging thing to be planning for the future already. I know that you will grieve Hayley for the rest of your life, so don't feel guilty that you should be thinking of ONLY Hayley when her funeral is tomorrow. You are allowed to think outside of Hayley's memory.

    Wishing you all my love in the world for tomorrow. Chin up! xx
    What they said... Hugs...

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