'the fallout' so well said. I think that's what people who haven't walked this part don't get. I also feel that men don't 'get' it as much.

It's like the brakes are slammed on then when they start again your on a different path and there is no way back.

It's devastating. My heart breaks for you. If it helps I totally know where you are coming from.

Keep talking. We are all here to listen whenever you need us.