L hun, This was his 1st MC, he didn't go through the pain of losing the bub physically so the emotional stuff may take a little longer for him to heal from. I can understand you being ready, but I do think that he needs to process his grief a little bit more before he is on the same page as you. You did have another MC before this one, and I know there was a lot of healing from back then that happened this time for you.

I think by 'picking up the pieces' he means for himself. He also fell in love with that baby and was looking forward to meeting him or her. He is still grieving and needs to collect the pieces of his heart and put it back together before he is ready.

He worked throughout the MC hun. At the time that was his way of processing it. There are 4 stages of grief, and then he was in the denial stage. I think he is in the hurt stage now, and is likely to have been though or will go through an angry stage. I can't remember what the other stage is but I know there are 4.

Maybe take this month off and let him know that you are there for him while he grieves this loss, and when he is ready he will let you know. Emotionally he isn't ready yet and pushing him to TTC when he is not ready may make it hard for him to grieve this baby properly, and make it harder for him to connect with the next pregnancy. When you do fall pg it is likely to hold him at the stage of grief he is at when he finds out, and I really want him to be able to connect with your next baby throughout the pregnancy instead of being distant.

I hope this helps hun, I dont want either of you to be hurt