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thread: Having a meltdown

  1. #19
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    Oct 2006
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    I hope the records help in some way with the grieving process

  2. #20
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    Oct 2005
    Moura, QLD, Australia
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    vent away tomorrow is 7 years since my little girl said goodbye and I still have days where I want to kick the walls scream the place down I think its all part of healing

  3. #21
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    Jul 2008
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    I will think of you tomorrow for your baby's anniversary Rach75.. I hope she is up there looking after my little ones.. The only comfort I get is although it's awful, I imagine all the bubs playing in the stars together.. I wonder if my babies are now looking after someone elses baby. I hope so..

  4. #22
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    Oh honey while I dont know the pain youre going through my goodness I just want to reach through the screen and cuddle you. I hope having yet another part of their lives helps you my sweet and dont worry about justifying your reasons, you do what you need to for you and you sons, be it kick and scream, cry for hours, pour over records, whatever. These are your beautiful boys and whatever helps you is whats right.

  5. #23
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    I truly hope getting your records helps you make sure you ask all the questions you need, I have the records for my first born (30+1wks) and there are some really big scary words in there and google is not nice at all, it helps to talk to someone who understands the terms.

    Anniversaries are the hardest Less than 2 months for the anniversary for my angel (17+1wks)

    Thinking of you xx

  6. #24
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    thanks I always imagine Katy dancing in the clouds with all the other babies who were too perfect for this earth

  7. #25
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    Sep 2010
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    Sorry to hear you are having a hard time atm. I too hate that babies are taken from us. It is just not fair. And at times it is hard to believe we cant see our babies again - that is one thought that really gets me. I also got the medical records from my baby. I want them as a record of her short life. But reading them is a double edged sword - in one way it was painful to relieve it, then it can also be therapeutic in a way. I hope it helps you with your healing. I hope you have a good fun weekend with your mum.

  8. #26
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    May 2008
    where the V8's roar
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    there is no time limit for grief and while it may not feel like it you are moving forward. I think it is a good thing you are getting your records, it might open some old wounds but as others have said I think it is all part of the healing process.
    Enjoy your weekend with your mum tell her and let her hold you too

  9. #27
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    Apr 2009
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    Oh hun massive hugs No words enough to say how sorry I am that your beautiful boys couldn't stay, it's not fair.
    If there's anything I can do let me know, I can give you my ears...
    Enjoy your time with your mum

  10. #28
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    Jul 2008
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    I got a letter today from the hospital legal services saying my request for the medical records is currently being processed and to be advised it can take 8-10 weeks.. Hmm, and it sounded so simple.. I wonder if I will get them around the boys anniversary.. Maybe?? I hope I get them before that though.. Not sure how I feel about waiting for so long

  11. #29
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    Jun 2008
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    Oh that's a bummer blessed.... hopefully it will be sooner rather than later

  12. #30
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    Apr 2009
    in the garden
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    Eurgh to waiting Fingers crossed it doesn't take too long

  13. #31
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    Jan 2008
    Victoria
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    I hope they have told you the longest date thats usually the way, i hope they come fast hun..

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