How do you deal with...

[~StarBright~]

OP it will be tough Some people (like me) just dont cope. I had to completely isolate myself from babies and people with babies- even family. It takes an incredibly strong person to be able to be happy for someone else when your own heart is breaking. Some days you may be strong enough- and some days you just wont be- and thats ok. You may be fine some days, and other days you will just want to crawl under a rock and pretend that the rest of the world just doesnt exist

Hopefully your friend will understand that. Sadly it may be hard for her too- she will probably feel like she doesn't know how much to share with you for fear of rubbing salt in your wound. So she might back away from you- thinking she is doing the right thing- and that may hurt just as much as seeing her Its not a fun situation to be in (none of what you are going through is ) hopefully you and your good friend have an open and honest and caring relationship where you can let each other know how your feeling about it all (and that may change to a day to day or even hour by hour basis depending how your emotions are going on any given day- especially as things get closer to your due date ) and go from there.

OP I am so sorry that you have had this horrible experience, I am so sorry that your baby isnt still growing in your belly. I wish I could take your pain away for you xoxox

[diva det]

its hard- damn hard
my cousin who i see frequently with the same last name as me and lives in the same suburb as me as well was due the same week I was!
Her little girl is now 3 years old and i still think to myself that we should have a little one the same age she is as well.
Its funny as she is getting older the pain is going when i see her, and it is replaced with an invisible bond that i have with her instead. I dont think that will ever go.

It was really tough when she was pg and i wasnt anymore. But she respected what i had been through and gave me space. She also understood why i couldnt go to her baby shower either! That was just being cruel to myself to go.

personally i found it harder to deal with the pg annoucements when I was going through IVF and it wasnt working . We did 7 cycles before we had our angel! I guess because other people didnt know what we were going through and i didnt have a chance to prepare myself beforehand for their annoucements.

Its damn hard to be happy for someone when all you want to do is rip their eyeballs out with jelously!

be kind to yourself hun, surround yourself with people who will protect you - you are fragile at the moment- and give yourself all the time you need to heal.
You may heal in time but there will always be a scar.
hugs
xxx