I was happy going along with the whole "men think things differently" until you said that he's effectively told you to just forget about it and move on. Sorry, but he needs a kick up the bum for that one. I absolutely agree that men feel differently than women, particularly with early losses, but his job as your husband and partner is to SUPPORT you. He can not understand the way you're feeling until the cows come home, but he still has a responsibility to care for and listen to his wife. You don't need to understand something to be supportive.

I'm really sorry Kirley. I felt totally lost, inadequate and broken after my miscarriages. Broken emotionally, but broken in that I couldn't keep my babies safe at this the basest of levels. I'm sorry you're going through this without the support that you deserve. I agree with Reet - from the moment we know we're pregnant, the dreams and hopes begin. You can't just forget that.