Nickel,

You probably have no idea how really fantastic you are being right now, and I just wanted to say a huge THANKYOU from the bottom of my heart to you for being there for your friend.

I remember all the hours of waiting and waiting and waiting some more at the hospital when I first found out about having an ectopic pregnancy. And it drove me crazy, to the point of tears of frustration at not having someone there to talk to me. (My DH wasn't able to be there)

I do agree with you about the ultrasound rooms. It was a bit upsetting to look around at all the baby pictures, I think maybe a room reserved especially for not so happy occasions is probably a good idea.

In terms of how I look at what has happened. I do think of myself as having been pregnant, but I don't think of myself as once having a baby. I guess because I didn't get to see the baby moving around or feel it kick, or even get really excited about being pregnant that it's hard for me to think of it as a "child". We found out I was pregnant the same day that we knew there was a problem.

And in terms of getting pregnant again - I can't wait to start trying. I think being happy and hopeful is the best thing you can do.

Once again, thanks for being such a great support for your friend.

All my love,
Curious