Nickel,

What a star you are.......your friend is a lucky lucky girl to have you.

In terms of your questions, it is possibly different for different women after an MC, and what they need from friends in terms of support, but for me:

~ For a week afterwards I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die and cry, but to know that I had my friends just there if I needed them.
~ For months and months afterwards I didn't want to talk about it to anyone apart from people I was close to, and again, I just needed to know that they were there and aware of my pain and to prop me up when needed.
~ In terms of TTC, when we got round to that again, I had 2 GF who knew we were TTC again, & they didn't constantly ask me about it, but were always on the end of the phone for me to talk to about it. Like a gentle and quiet supporters club, praying for us!
~ When I finally got PG again they were both fantastic and literally held my hand and my spirits through every day of the pregnancy and I felt really "cushioned" by their support, IYKWIM?

(Ritz and Alice, if you ever read this, I could never have done my pregnancy with Olivia without you....you were both fantastic.)

Nickel, just the fact that you are so aware means you will react in all right ways, I am sure..........