I think you are being an incredible friend. It is wonderful that you are there for your friend through what is probably one of the most difficult times in her life.

Like the others have said, what women need following a m/c or loss is different for everybody. We are all individuals and handle situations in different ways, and so respond to grief and loss in unique ways.

To answer some of your questions:

~ Yes, at times it was very hard to keep going. I felt like an emotional wreck and wasn't sure how to keep going, but somehow, I did. In time, it got a little easier to get up in the mornings.

~ Yes, I do think of myself as having had babies. Particularly my 1st m/c, where I found out at my 1st OB appt.....I saw our little one lifeless on the screen in front of us, with little arm and leg buds. This is something I will never forget.

~ About TTC again....I would try to be guided by your friend on this one, and just support whatever decision her and her DH arrive at. It's a very individual decision, and only they will know what is best for them. Some people cannot face TTC again for some time, others want to TTC again as soon as possible. She will most likely talk about this when she is ready and will let you know how she feels about it.