Peta, as tellytubby said, there is no 'right' way to grieve - the only right way would be to not have to. I have lost 4 precious babies, and there are some days that I hate my body for being such a failure. Most of the time though, I realise that there was nothing I could've done, sometimes these things just happen. A annoying and frustrating and heartbreaking as it is, it's true. In the meantime, take it slowly hun, give yourself time and space to grieve in whatever way you feel is right