Hi all,

Currently I'm on maternity leave from work. I just received a phone call from one of the management team informing me that one of the girls who is full term lost her bub yesterday

My colleagues at work want to send her flowers/card etc and there are mixed feelings from them as to whether they should say "congratulations" and then "I'm sorry" IYGWIM. They wanted my advice on what to do. We are a close team in a professional way IYGWIM and everyone wants to do something.

I suggested that it is a difficult situation regardless and if people feel uncomfortable about mentioning the baby but still want to express there love and prayers then we can send flowers on behalf of the team and then each individual can write there own card etc. So thats what they are doing....They think...I am going to go into work shortly and have debrief with everyone.

Now its got me thinking, in the past I have always congratulated parents on the birth of bubs and expressed my sadness at their loss. Having had a late loss myself, it was hard if people avoided mentioning that I had had a baby, but at the same time I understood it is awkward for people too.

So I respectfully ask you wonderful ladies here what you think. Any suggestions, wise words for when I go in today? Considering I am full term and have been the grieving mum too, I need some other perspectives if that makes sense

TIA