How long do you sign their name for?

[widdly]

mel i think "Phoebe dancing in the sunlight" is a wonderful idea, im sure it will stir emotions, but i think they will be so grateful to know that your keep Phoebe in your heart still

[paradise lost]

I've not come across it in the situation of a loss before or at birth, but i know a family who lost a son when he was 2 (he drowned in the garden pond) who still sign his name now (he'd be 24 this year) sometimes - we either get a big list of names (they're a HUGE family, 9 kids) with his in there, or "from all of us". Another family friend lost 2 of her 3 kids to cancer in 1984 (aged 6) and 1993 (aged 8) and she signed the name of her late eldest child up until the youngest died and then stopped.

I think it's a really individual and personal thing, but if she continues to sign her angels name, she'd probably welcome recognition of her little girl's existence from another person. I think it's a really sweet idea anyway.

Bx

[Arimeh]

Thanks guys.

I sent her a text this morning addressed to her, her DH, A, W, Phoebe and H.

I will give her a card when I see her with a little angel attached (charm).

Merry christmas and lots of love and blessings to all the angels.

[NaeNae]

Arimeh - I trhink that is a lovely way to remember their little angel.

I personally do not sign Nikita's name in anything except for cards to DH.What happened with her still upsets quiet a lot of people and I don't want them to feel sad at a time of year that is so joyous for most. If people are being a bit insenitive I remind them in a subtle way though

[Arimeh]

Thanks Nae

I ended up making her the card, and popped it in with the rest of the presents to my sister and her family.

So hopefully when my mum can get down to see her soon, she will open it. I think I said something along the lines of may your dancing in the sunlight always light up our lives or something like that - it was like 6am when I wrote it. Seemed quite poetic at the time!

I dont' think anyone else in my family acknowledged her on xmas day - but I'm glad I did. She's still my niece after all.

[CJF1982]

Arimeh,

I think what you wrote is very beautiful, thoughtful and a lovely way to acknowledge your angel neice.
I would love to hear what your sister thought of it.

[kitten76]

Acknowledgement of her daughter, not only her loss will make a big difference.The card and charm are a lovely idea. It says so much without saying anything at all, IYKWIM.

Some people didnt know what to say to me and most didnt say anything. Honestly that hurt very much. Then one of my close friends gave me an angel charm which I wear on a chain. She didnt have to say anything to me but she acknowledged our daughters birth and how much she meant to us, and that gesture meant everything.