i didnt think it would hurt this much

[skybie]

My pregnancy didnt even show on a poas, but did in a blood test, my pregnancy never moved past a bunch of cells, my baby never had a heart beat, yet i feel this strong sense of loss that i never though i would.
physically im ok, cramps have gone and werent as bad as i thought they'd be.
i just didnt think it would hurt this much

[Sopdet]

oh babe
You still feel the loss, the "could have been", the potential. Don't discount it at all, don't discount your feelings, allow yourself to grieve.

[Persephone1]

Hi,

I had a chemical pregnancy/early miscarriage in April last year, which didn't show up on a POAS but did show up on a BT. It floored me. It was probably one of the lowest points for me because there was so much "potential" there, but no baby. Don't underestimate how much grief you need to process. For me, an early miscarriage was also really difficult because it wasn't meant to be same as a later miscarriage, and I found it hard to articulate why it hurt so much - it didn't have a heartbeat, so what was there to grieve. There was nothing "tangible" to grieve. But I learnt that a miscarriage is exactly that, no matter when it happens or why. You've suffered a loss, and that's hard no matter when it happens.

Take some time to grieve, and look after yourself. I had some counseling which really helped me understand why I was feeling that way, and it taught me a lot. Massive to you. Please take care.

[STARRYSKY]

skybie, I had a missed miscarriage that was (I now know) a blighted ovum, the baby as such never formedeven though I got as far as 9 wks, the pgcy as such never made it past 4 wks.
I struggled with feeling like it wasnt a legitimate miscarriage ITMS? I know its different to what has happened in your circumstances, but as soon as we know we are pregnant, like a PP said, there is that potential, that is just so suddenly gone, taken from us with such shock.
Big hugs beautiful Girl, we are all here for you if you need to talk, vent, cry. xxx

[PumpkinZulu]

I'm so sorry you're going through this hun. A loss really *is* a loss, we all feel that terrible emptiness and pain. We not only lose a baby, we lose our entire future with that child too. Our other children lose a lifetime of being with that sibling. We grieve for what never was and what will now never be I'm so sorry for your angel. Take care of yourself.

[MistyFying]

Skybie I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Kazmar]

Im thinking about you a lot Skye Hope you're getting lots of love from DH and your girls

[~clover~]

thinking of you hun xx

[luna moth]

How are you doing now, love?

I hope it's getting easier for you - as the hormones leave your system, it seems to. It did for me, anyway.

Try to get outside - it's advice a BBer gave me, and it was the best.

xxx

[Catastrophic]

Skybie Hugs!!! xoxo

[skybie]

Starting to feel a lttle bit more human eveyday, monday wasnt a good day at all, but im getting there.
Thanks so much for all your love and support ladies, i dont know how i would hav gotten through this without u all
xxx

[garfield13]

I hope you are feeling okay. Just reading your post know as I have just had a d&c on thursday and struggling to come to terms with not being pg anymore