Hi there,

We had been trying to conceive number 2 with PCOS and had done 8 cycles of FSH ovulation induction over 18 months. We had success and HCG numbers were great, good heartbeat at 7 weeks, and all looking perfect at 9 weeks when I had an extra scan. I had a doppler and was listening in every couple of days and heard a strong heartbeat about 160-165 usually.

So we went for our scan at 12+2 to be told that the baby had died a couple of days before. I have still had no bleeding or cramping, and still have morning sickness.

After having the weekend to get our heads round this I am seeing the doctor today to discuss the d&c. I have a few questions and wondered if someone could help me as I'm scared that I won;t get all the answers in the doctors today.

What will happen to the remains of my baby, do we have any say?

Will they be able to tell me if it was a girl or a boy?

Will the baby come out whole or will it be harmed in the process?

Are there any other options other than the d&c? If the baby was 12 weeks would a natural miscarriage be too distressing? My understanding is that it could take weeks and I think I need to get past this quickly for the sake of myself and my son.

If I have PCOS and normally don;t ovulate on my own, will I still get a period in a few weeks and when can we go back and start treatment again?

I'm sorry if some of these questions are distressing, I just need to know what will happen to my baby and was hoping someone could me.

We are heartbroken

Thank you.