Lost?

[Maruschke]

Thanks for understanding. Battling a lack of recognition from my family right now, which might be driving these thoughts.

[NaeNae]

Battling a lack of recognition from my family right now

oh yeah just wanted to say ...... its not about them hun, its what you recognise. They don't have an emotional connection to your angels,they did not go through it. Its unfair of you to expect them to recognise something that was "not real" in terms of their connection to your angels. This is something that is hard to come to terms with, it happened to you not to them. Feel blessed that at least YOU have been touched by their little lives and will forever hold them in your heart.

They can share your DD and any future children you have, but your special little angels are yours and yours alone

[LionsandBears]

I hate the term too. I feel like "losing" one is forgetful, two is negligent and what kind of mother does that then make me? I did not "lose" my babies either. I say they died or passed away.

As for recognition. I dont understand why people insist on denial. It makes it about them and their lack. How hard is it really just to acknowledge someone's grief and let them be, let them feel? You know how important your baby is. I wish your family was more supportive for you.

[Hope.Positive.Love]

YES!!!! I feel the exact same way - I havent misplaced my baby, we havent put him down somewhere walked away and lost him - he died - the baby I was carrying has died ... i think for me i say we lost our baby becuase most people assume when you say our baby died - a think a lot would assume the baby was earthside living - whereas i feel from the moment of conception, from when the hearbeats, our baby is alive...

I am so glad someone put this up... We havent lost our babies, our babeies have died as that is extremely painful - it could even go as far as giving us hope, that our baby is 'lost' therefore maybe we can 'find them again... oh that just brought up too many feelings for me... sorry

[forshelby]

Families can be difficult to deal with. Most want to sweep your pain under the rug, not to upset you or isolate you, but to ease their own hurt and or discomfort with the intense nature of grief associated with the death of a baby. Sadly, the outcome is always the very thing your family least wants for you. I still struggle to find the words to comfort a grieving parent.

I'd like to share a song lyric which really speaks to me. "I mourn for those, who never knew you."

to all my kindred spirits

[Tegam]

I still struggle to find the words to comfort a grieving parent.

same here......