Well, we're now pretty sure that DW is miscarrying, she's having increasing pain and is now passing clots.
We managed to see our GP this morning, who was quite unsympathetic - I'm tossing up taking DW to hospital this afternoon, because she has a lot of arm pain now, and she has had previous health problems that may predispose her to ectopic pregnancy.
I'm wondering from anyone's prior experience - how bad does the pain of miscarriage get? Is it as painful as labour pains? And how long have people been advised to wait after a miscarriage to TTC again? This will be our second miscarriage, but the first was almost ten years ago, and we've had two healthy pregnancies since then.
Michael I'm really sorry to hear that. I can't help you with your question as mine was a missed m/c, I had spotting, a scan to confirm, and then went in for d&c, which was necessary, but I also really wanted/needed it. I know the pain after the d&c was awful, but that doesn't really help you.
I think if she is predisposed to an ectopic then I would be heading in to hospital to rule that out. How far along is she? Maybe she'll need a d&c?
As for how long, we were advised to wait for two months, my Ob was quite upfront in saying that they don't know why, but it seems to slightly reduce the risk of m/c again with the next pg. He did point out that it was hardly the end of the world if we did fall pg again straight away, chances were that the pg would be a healthy one. We conceived without really trying after one cycle though, and our baby is now here, happy and healthy. You'll find that some people will advise to wait, some will advise to go straight ahead. You and DW will know what's best for you
Hi there,
I am very sorry to hear of this.
With my m/c's they have both been quite painful. My first was at approx 8 weeks gest, and tha pains were quite bad. I had to jump in a hot bath the try and ease the pain a little. Not quite on par with labour pains, but pretty close.
I agree with the PP's maybe just taking your DW to the hospital just in case.
I m/c at the start of this month, and I won't be waiting much longer... I will TTC when I ovulate at the end of this week start of next.
Very sorry to hear that....
My m/c pains were like baddish period pains, but nothing at all like labour pains. That said, everyone has diff experiences. I was told to wait a few months more for the emotional side than the physical. I would go to the hospital if you have any queries. Pity about your GP. If only they knew the support/advice etc that was needed at this time........
If you suspect an ectopic pregnancy you need to be in hospital - hopefully you will have made your way there by now...
Miscarriage can be very painful. Mine were early 6 weeks ish and there was significant blood loss, clots and pelvic pain. It's an awful pain as unlike the pain of labour it is only dread and sorrow, rather than the sweet anticipatory pain of labour. This I think exacerbates the pain.
I used herbs to aid the miscarriage, took high doseage of vitamin c and some homeopathy to help. Hot packs and hot baths and showers helped. The pain was only awful for the first day.
Sending you and your DW love support and strength as you say goodbye. I am sorry...
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